I shouldn't care, but.....(Venting)

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I shouldn't care, but.....(Venting)
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 11:38pm

So I'm totally happy to have Ricky in my life.

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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 12:54pm

True, good point in that the conversation might not solve anything especially if she is like you said. It just sounds like she is dead set against liking him for whatever reason!

Well, all may not be champagne and roses in her marriage even though it might seem that way. She might be really good at hiding her own problems or maybe she is just one of those people that doesn't want people to find happiness b/c it will make her life look not as good. Who knows but regardless, as long as you are happy and Ricky is as caring and good to you as you say, then what they think doesn't matter. If they had legitimate concerns (such as abuse or actual controlling situations), that would be different but it sounds like anyone that doesn't like him has no reason not to at this point. I think getting everyone together to get to know each other is a great idea. Good luck!

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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 2:50pm

Thanks vexer & NG.

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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 3:10pm

CGUN - the only thing I can ask you - is are you acting differently? are you assuming your friends and family are against your relationship???

Reason I say this is bc my best friend isn't talking to me bc she believes that im against her relationship (bc im single which is stupid and another story). And its SO untrue, I have never said anything but good things to her, and she is still on her rampage that her friends are against her relationship.

Talk with your friends and family and listen. Communicate. Sometimes things get all jumbled in assumptions... and both parties are surprised they were wrong.

In the meantime, as far as the little judgemental things go (e.g. your friend's dismay over you calling himwhen you pull into your driveway), I wouldn't waste time arguing these things. You told her your side and it should be left at that. If your friend wants to think hes possessive, so be it. Life is too short to argue over petty things.
Its your life really - and I really hate it when friends get upset when you aren't doing what they want you to do. A good friend will realize this and stand by you no matter what.

HAng in there. Im so happy you are with someone you dig so much. If only i found that guy as well. Right now, Ive got the guy who is around alot, but the feelings aren't there for me. Oh dating - its never quite right...

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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 4:59pm

Awww...man!

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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 8:24pm

Thanks, Amjay, I appreciate the kind words. I was kinda anticipating a 'CGUN-is' situation with my friends too, as they heard me complain about him so much when we were together before. But they have been pretty supportive, probably because I've been a lot more positive.
ANybody who's just tuned in -- I met this guy through OLD a couple of years ago and we've been on and off for more than two years. We're not perfect for each other but he's the smartest man I ever met and that is really important to me; he loves me, not an inconsequential detail; he's also a little on the unconventional side (my mom wishes I could just meet a banker or a lawyer!) which also works for me. AND five years younger, woo hoo, and he is wonderful with my daughter.

Stacey, I think I neglected to say how terrific Ricky sounds! And to think you found him on Craig's list! Some people who have seen others go thru a controlling situation overreact to stuff that's perfectly innocent. It's the big picture you have to look at, and it sounds like you really have. I think touching base when you get home and before you go to bed is very sweet.

YOur description of this friend kind of begs the question -- what is it you see in her anyway?? ANd I mean that in the nicest way!

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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 8:35pm

LOL

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