I think age has a big impact....

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I think age has a big impact....
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Sun, 08-20-2006 - 8:51am

I've been contemplating my recent OLD experience which wasn't good. I am 51. I've been at this, on and off, for 3 years. I had a hiatus of about 1.5 years as I was in a r'ship (on and off...lol). This time I was on Match and eHarmony simultaneously for 5 months.

I feel fairly confident that my profile/pics are pretty good, but very few matches on EH and very little contact of any kind on Match. Yes, I sent out winks and emails on my own and initiated communication on EH. I had matches close on me on EH and many times the reason was "age difference." Um, OK...but the guys were in their late 40's/early fifties!

One I guy that I actually got to a date with told me he doesn't usually date women "my age", but since I had such a "young" look, he thought he'd give me a try. He was 49!!!!

I don't know. Maybe I'm being a little sensitive about this as my XBF basically dumped me for a woman who is 20 years younger than I am/he is. However, I have the distinct feeling that men just plain prefer younger women.

I understand that is their preference and are entitled to that, but what can a gal do? I read an article that suggested looking for men in an age group that would be interested in my age. Um OK...if I go by the men who appear to be interested that would like 60+! I'm sorry, but most of these guys look like they could be grandfather and that is just not "appealing." I am not out here just to "date." I'm looking for an LTR leading to marriage.

I mean the dating pool is shallow enough at this end, but then to "loose" whatever prosepcts there may be is so discouraging and disappointing!

My subs to both have expired and I am not renewing at this time. Arrrgghhh!!!!




Edited 8/20/2006 8:56 am ET by luv2004
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 2:17am

I am 38. I say in my profile I am looking at ages 32-47. I get a LOT of guys in their 50's contacting me.

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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 9:52am

I am on a dating site where you can't indicate what age range you're looking for since it's not an option. I'm 29 but I've been told I look about 24 and I would say the breakdown of the ages of men who contact me are as follows:

20's-5%
30's-35%
40's-30%
50's-15%
60's-5%

It's disgusting that men older than my father contact me and I actually sometimes write emails to them questioning their judgment. They write things like, "I wish I was 20 years younger!" and one in his 50's even wrote to me "let's see if your personality matches your looks and maybe I'll write you a little bit about myself." Then again, he also has links in his profile to a senior and a gay dating website. He's a God-fearing Christian by the way and I'm an agnostic who lives 100's of miles away from me but he thinks we're fated! I couldn't resist giving him a piece of my mind. I prefer to date a man who's 27-37. I wonder if some of these delusional men belong to the same species as us women.

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Registered: 08-31-2006
Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:25pm
i agree i am 46 most men my age want the younger woman so whay a woman to do when you can't get a man my own age and i don't look my age but when they fine out how old i'am that is the end of that date
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Registered: 09-01-2006
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 9:41pm

I'm new to this online dating but I have noticed all these old geezers who look pathetic and put in the age group they are looking for as between 22 and 35. Get Real!!

A doctor had recently told me that researchers are discovering how now that women are living longer and healthier they seem to have a second sexual peak in their late fifties and early sixties! Interesting, huh? With menopause behind us and no more moodiness, exhaustion, or kids clinging to our ankles I think it should be Women who put that age group of 22-35 on their profiles.

Sunbeam1247

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Registered: 08-07-2005
Sat, 09-02-2006 - 11:13pm

Hi,

I am 43 years old. Unlike all the other people on this thread, I have mainly younger men pursuing me. Some men my age or older also pursue me. If I had a dime for every time a younger male would tell me that he preferred older women....

For now, I am happily single and not looking. Concentrating on my career and my daughter. I broke off an engagement a little over a year ago and been divored for 3 years, so I am gun shy.

I am a bit disillusioned with men right now. Good luck to all of you,

Bunny

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 12:05pm

I'm 36 and I too get a lot of young guys writing (as well as men in my dating age range) but my point is a 25 year old is not looking for what I'm looking for....most young guys know that women 30+ are uninhibited sexually and that is what they are looking for so be careful to any of you going out with someone significantly younger....


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Sun, 09-03-2006 - 4:55pm

"most young guys know that women 30+ are uninhibited sexually ..."


Really Peanut? I'm not sure if I agree with you here... what if the younger guy is looking for something real too? I think generalizations can be dangerous... :o)

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Sun, 09-03-2006 - 5:41pm
Generlizations happen because there are truths in them, sometimes a lot.
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Sun, 09-03-2006 - 5:52pm

I guess our experiences differ... I've met some 20 year olds that could have passed for 40 emotionally... even when I was 21 or so, I had had a lifetime of experiences where most people my age now never even had to deal with...


Mind you, I do hear where you're coming from. I'm just always weary of generalizations because they don't neccessarily lead down good roads...

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 5:57pm
Well mind you, we're dealing with OLD and seriously it makes it easier for players to play so that is why I say be careful. Most of the 10+ younger men writing you are not looking for the same type of relationship on line.
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