I think I'm too fat to date........
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I think I'm too fat to date........
| Sun, 03-20-2005 - 7:55am |
Seriously. I don't want to put up a profile because of it. I don't want the scathing emails telling me what I already know. I've been going to the gym and watching what I eat but it's gonna be about 6 months before I'm not fat anymore.
Does anyone else feel this way? Or am I being too hard on myself? Thanks in advance for your input.

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If you think you're too fat to date then that is all that you will ever bring to the equation, so you will make it come true and you can then say, "see? I knew I was too fat to date!"
Keep going to the gym; it will make you feel better about yourself no matter how you look.
Plus, you need a very thick skin to do online dating -- even the gorgeous ones have a tough time!
-Tracy
What is a "few extra pounds"? To me it's around 10 lbs. or so. I don't think 50 lbs. overweight is "a few extra pounds". I don't necessarily think it's curvaceous either. However, there are plenty of curves from the side.....lol.
Maybe I'll do an experiment and put up brand new pics and see what happens. I think mentioning that you're working on losing weight in the profile would seem like you're not happy with where you're at now, correct?
Congratulations on your relationship, CGUN. I know you, SP, and NGOL are all success stories for now.
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Correct! And, quite frankly, it's the same as saying, "smoke, but trying to quit". You are sort of promising to change if someone gives you the time of day. Doesn't work that way.
You smoke or you don't, you have quit or you haven't. You are small or you are large.
Great idea of yours, putting up recent pictures. If only everyone would do that!!!
And I need to say this: there is lots of you to love -- get over it! Don't let your looks be the reason you don't get winked at. I tried that, also tried to use my age (46), and then see the pictures of all these good looking board people, some in their 40s, and see that Everyone has difficulty finding their match.
When it comes down to it, knees, you couldn't be happy with someone who didn't love you as you are in the here and now, right?
amjay
Hi Hon-
I am sorry that you feel that you are too fat to date.
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I don't even like where I'm at here and now. The thought of being naked in front of anyone makes me nauseous. I am embarrassed and all mirrors are neck level and I don't look in them if they're not. I used to be eye candy and now I'm not. That's what's hard now. I think it's crazy that the way I feel about myself is directly related to the scale. My new boyfriend will be the gym.....lol.
Included 3 pictures (recent) - head, full length body, candid.
Follow CGUN's advice on listing yourself truthfully.
I don't think you'll have a problem. I'll never communicate with someone who doesn't have clear photos. If the photos are clearly posed so as to obscure the full body I click out of the profile asap.
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