I tried dating on-line, it was awful
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I tried dating on-line, it was awful
| Wed, 12-20-2006 - 10:57am |
I tried dating people I met on line at the yahoo message boards. It was the worst experience of my life. I met transsexuals, morbidly fat people , stalkers, abuse junkies, and every type of Jerk you would ever see portrayed as teh male lead on any Lifetime tv movie.I have given up now. I guess im destined to be alone forever.

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God girl, you have certainly been thru the ringer, huh?!! This would make for a hilarious book, though.
Do you mind sending me a copy of your profile for some advice? I wouldn't mind. Myself, I have met some pretty nice guys, the worst of which was needy, but no transsexuals or junkies. Don't give up yet, there are nice ones out there!
Gal Blondie
Dont be discouraged....I hate to admit to sometimes but I have been OLD for several years...and yes like in life you do get those real 'tossers'...but I have to say that I have have met some really wonderful men and had some LTR's...In my perspective it is no different than going out and meeting some of the men you can meet at a club or a bar...its just more refined and selective in my opinion. I go with my gut feeling, and when I havent boy have I been surprised! And yessss....I have some really great stories about some of the tossers that I have encountered...So my suggestion is to take a new approach and see what happens...you know it always happens when you least expect it something wonderful comes knocking at your door!
Cheers
Sarah
Sorry you had such bad experiences, but I think it's the venue you tried, not that there are only freaks out there looking.
Like Stacey, I suggest trying an actual online dating site, not message boards or chat rooms. There definitely are WAY more freaks in the chat rooms and yahoo message boards than you'll find in an OLD site such as Match or Yahoo Personals. We know of quite a few success stories from people that used to post on this board and they used Match and other regular dating sites. We even had a successful romance of two people that met out here on OUR message board! But we're a lot less freaky than some of the weirdos that are on the Yahoo message boards!
Also, you can find out a LOT about people by asking the right questions before you meet in person. Ask them about their lifestyle, ask them what they do for fun, ask what they do for a living, ask about their family. Ask for pictures too.
Anyway, don't knock all OLD venues because of bad experiences on something that really wasn't OLD.
"We even had a successful romance of two people that met out here on OUR message board!"
Speaking of which, has anyone heard from Eric & Mel and how they're doing?
You know, that's funny. Because when I did REAL LIFE dating I *also* met transsexuals, morbidly fat people, stalkers, abuse junkies and jerks.
There are freaks everywhere. You'll never escape them. And the roads in dating are all exactly the same - real life or online.
There are also very nice people out there - in real life or online. With either road that you choose, you just have to take the time in getting to KNOW someone.
So sorry you had a bad experience!
It may, as others say, that the message boards are not the place to go and the dating sites are better. Although I am signed up for Yahoo Personals now, I haven't actually dated anyone from there yet. However, the guys who have contacted me through Yahoo seem essentially the same as the guys who contacted me through Match.com. And none of them were perverts or anything like that.
The morbidly obese--yes. This medium attracts people with that problem. There is one poor guy on both Match and Yahoo who obviously needs two seats on an airplane, and who has this pathetic profile about how he isn't looking for the perfect woman, just one who will see the man behind his picture or something like that. And one guy who contacted me was a paraplegic. I say more power to them, even if I don't want to date them.
Weirdos are everywhere. Online dating simply gives you more of everything in a shorter period of time.
I am not crazy about online dating, but it does beat the alternative (which you yourself point out is to be alone). The trick, I think has to be to be choosy. Just as you wouldn't date just anyone in real life, be careful in who you go out with from online.
Elsa
Edited 12/20/2006 7:40 pm ET by elarisa
The one thing I keep reminding myself..is that you can meet these same ppl on the street, in stores, etc.
Hi Stacey,
I keep in touch with them and both are doing fine. Mel is busy working and living her new life in Texas. Everything between her and E is alllll goood and both are very happy. I'll tell her you asked about her! :o)
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