I urge you to read: From Screen to Fantasy and Back: What People Really Do at Online Dating Sites

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Registered: 04-07-2010
I urge you to read: From Screen to Fantasy and Back: What People Really Do at Online Dating Sites
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:49pm

Good evening, friends,

Grab the coffee, kick back and soak this one up!

Here is a MUST read article/blog that is eloquent, brilliant and informative. It might just answer many of your questions about on-line dating, or bring to light much information to aid your comprehension of what transpires before, during and after the whole she-bang.

Is your boyfriend’s profile back up? Was the fantasy better than the reality? Is a dating site really a dating site? What is over-simulation?

For the answer to these questions and many more, and for perhaps a few AHA! moments,

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Interesting article.

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Registered: 06-07-2004

Thanks it was very interesting. Alot of psychological terms, etc. Maybe explains why so many people get so frustrated by online dating. There are many out there who should not be out there and thus many people waste much time interactng with people who should not be on the site.

The nature of online dating means you can spin through many contacts in a short amount of time and your disappointment can ramp up very quickly.

Interesting how its is stated these sites are set up to show you that there is always something better out there. As though they are designed this way. Do you really think thats true? They seem fairly straight forward to me and I am not sure how they could de different in order to not make you feel that way?

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Registered: 04-07-2010

"Interesting how its is stated these sites are set up to show you that there is always something better out there. As though they are designed this way. Do you really think thats true? They seem fairly straight forward to me and I am not sure how they could de different in order to not make you feel that way?"

Look at it this way:

The structure of the sites is very much the same: the candy store. You go in to pick the sweetest (pardon the expression) "piece" of candy the store has to offer. You are just about to put your hand in your pocket and fish out your wink or IM or email,

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Registered: 11-07-2007

I did find the "one" or actually he found me but I believe the first guy I went out with was addicted to the ideal of finding somebody not actually dating.