I was stupid during the 1st phone call

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Registered: 11-05-2005
I was stupid during the 1st phone call
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:12pm

Help Ladies !!!!
I have been corresponding with a man … for months now. Last night I got and email from him, saying that he was in town on business for 3days ( he lives 900 miles away) I am super nervous on the phone and I always preferred using email …But this time I did not have a choice. So I called and sounding stupid: I was so nervous that I had to repeat my name 4 times before he recognized me… I apologised for being so weird …. Anyhow he asked If I was free for dinner tonight … I told him that I was …. Then he asked me to call him later so that we can plan your evening … I wanted to give him my cell phone # but he said that he could not write it down ( he was driving at the time )

I don’t know if I want to call him and sound “mental” again ?? I am not that sure that he wants me to call back either (given that he did not take my number ) But on the other hand. I don’t want to leave him waiting for my call at 5pm this afternoon ….

Ps this is the same gentleman I was talking about in my previous post “ He said write but almost never replies …..

Thanks ….. This stupid incident makes me want to close my account
Winnie




Edited 2/8/2006 8:22 pm ET by funnywinnie10
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Registered: 12-22-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:04pm
Do you want to have dinner with him? If so, I guess you're going to have to call him back. Are you hoping that something will ever come out of this or do you just want to be penpals with the guy?
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:54pm

OK, I'm sorry. This guy sounds lazy and not all that interested. Every cell phone has caller ID now! He should have your number and yet he still wants you to call him. Besides, he's coming to your town, he should have called YOU not the other way around. Don't worry about sounding stupid, this guy is an idiot who can't really be bothered. He doesn't sound worth it to me.

As for future calls to others, just take a deep breath and calm down and think about what you want to say as a hello. Then play the rest by ear - conversations should flow naturally and once you get started, you'll be fine. Have a couple questions to ask or topics to bring up if things get quiet. Try to keep the convo short anyway and meet in person ASAP.

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Registered: 11-05-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 4:43pm
Hi vexer,
Thanks for giving it to me straight .... I am not calling him ... if he wants to contact me he has my email..... and I may NOT REPLY.....


Edited 2/8/2006 8:19 pm ET by funnywinnie10
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 12:08am
But sometimes you feel it sounds stupid more than it really is.
I ve had this feeling in few presentations I gave and all my friends said they did not notice any awkward moments while for me I wished I could disappear of embarassement for not doing a great job...
Trust me you are your own harshest critique.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 7:08am

Winnie,


I'm with Vex. You said in your post that he doesn't reply to your emails also, right? I would say it sounds like he lacks serious interest. If he does email you, I wouldn't even bother writing him back. Why waste your time? Don't close your