I was told I was close minded.

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I was told I was close minded.
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Sat, 03-12-2011 - 12:27am

There is this guy from the same country but who lives in another city, who I met thru Facebook we have never met in person. When he first sent me his first message he got interested in me, becaue I did aerobics due to the photos I have n my profile. He is a surfer and he told me I seem like a nice lady to chat with, he immediately ask me for my messenger to chat utside Facebook. Since I did not see any harm on that I gave him my messenger. That happened in 1 day, then the next day we again coincide on the messenger

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Sat, 03-12-2011 - 11:03am

I don't know how you are going to get to know him if you never meet him.

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Sat, 03-12-2011 - 4:59pm

Why don't you suggest that you meet him in a public place for coffee?

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Sat, 03-12-2011 - 6:27pm

I think it depends, the first time he asked, he gave two options of public places and you didn't like that idea so I guess he thought he needed to go another direction.

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Sat, 03-12-2011 - 7:05pm

Rainita-

Hi. You indicated that you and the man in question live in a different country, not the USA as with most of us here. Social mores ( what is considered appropriate conduct) might be very different where you live. However,

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Mon, 03-14-2011 - 2:13pm

He does not live in anotehr country, we live in the same country but in different cities. I mean I dont know him in person and we have just chatted for 2 days and he already asked me out even the first time wwe first chatted on a messenger. We were tlakin gabout stuff and then he said why dont we go out one day, i mean the first day we first chatted. He first told me in the first day he will like me to go with him to the beach< hello??? alone with him at the beach and we dont even know each other? so then he told me right away, so thenm let me pick u up at ur work one day so we can go

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Tue, 03-15-2011 - 1:38pm

If he is suggesting your first date as being you going over to his house for wine and his balcony then he has got only one thing on his mind.

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Tue, 03-15-2011 - 2:51pm

I thought the same thing. Why some guys are so like that? I mean why they cant wait to get to know a lady first before getting them into

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Wed, 03-16-2011 - 9:09am

evolution has programmed males for millions of years to mate first and ask questions later. Only in the very tail end of human existence has society veered toward marriage, relationships, etc. Some men have a hard time overcoming their genes.