i will be alone forever..

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
i will be alone forever..
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 9:19pm
Something is definitely wrong with me. A friend from work is setting me up with a friend of her husbands. He just called me and we talked. The whole conversations I was giggling like an idiot probably because I was nervous and I am feeling kinda strange since this is the first time someone is setting me up. I met this guy in person last weekend when my friend and I went to see this guy's band playing. He must have liked me because he asked my friend for my #. I kept my cool really well at the bar but tonight I am just disgusted with myself.. He asked me when can we meet and I couldn't come up with anything definite so we left it at Tuesday and time/place to be determined. He said he will call me again to set up firm plans and asked if I got his #.
I am usually not shy, I don't know what is happening with me, I am all over the place lately..
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 9:34pm
Now stop that! LOL You will not be alone forever! This guy thought enough of you to ask for your # and then he called! Even if you were silly and giggly on the phone, he still thought enough of you to ask you out - he probably recognizes that you were nervous and thought that you were cool enough the other night that you will probably be cool again! Just wait for the confirmation call, go out and have a good time! This sounds MUCH more promising than Bicycle Guy!

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 10:07pm

Hi Ivos,

You'll be fine! Just hang in there! I find that set up dates are a little more unnerving than the OLD meets. I think maybe because you know the people who have set you up, so there are questions about the date later from them, etc., where with OLD if you don't want to reveal anything about the meet with anyone, you don't have to. But you've already seen this guy so you don't have that unknown and scary part to deal with!

I think all of us feel somewhat shy at times, but the guy did ask for your phone number and called to set up a date, so he HAS gotten the ball rolling. Just believe in yourself and that will show through. How does that one saying go - fake it till you make it... They say after 5 minutes of faking it that the action becomes real. You can do it and will be fine.

Now you have to think of a place to meet and a time, so you'll be ready when he calls next! I think you will have less anxiety if you are ready with this suggestion when he calls you.

Sunshine