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I'd love to see other peoples profiles -
| Sun, 04-09-2006 - 2:53pm |
How about we post them, or our member name, so we can check them out?
I dont have my pic up, but i will attach a link with the few pics i do send, upon request. It will be fun to see others - & feel free to critique as well.


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Like I said, I've only been to speed-dating once, back in November. I met one guy who I clicked with, we emailed back and forth, then he finally suggested getting together. I wrote back saying sure, here is when I can meet, etc. And....POOF! The earth opened up and SWALLOWED him whole! LOL Who knows what his issue was, but I'm glad I found out sooner rather than later that he is a spineless wimp!
Despite that experience, I did find the event fun and low pressure. I met about 8 guys that night, and maybe two or three were possibilities. I found it much more fun than online. It's good to actually meet people face-to-face right away, and get a sense as to whether there is even a smidgen of chemistry, and at least get a feel for whether they are legit and not a phony!
I'm going tomorrow night, so I'll let you guys know how it goes. I plan on just having fun--can't lose that way. The speed-dating is just one facet of my plan to be more open and available--so many years after my divorce I held back and just thought it would "happen" and it hasn't. So, I want to be more proactive instead of pretending it doesn't really matter. I feel unless I make some effort now, I could very well be alone when I'm older-which of course isn't the end of the world but I would like to give it my best shot. SO, I'm putting myself "out there" more--volunteering, 5Ks, sports events, etc.
I've been really impressed by the profiles you all have put up--very creative!
How was it dealing with the men you clearly *weren't* interested in (or that clearly weren't interested in you)? That's my biggest fear about trying it...that I'd have guy after guy I had no interested in talking to, or vice versa, sitting in front of me and I'd be miserable.
Sheri
I'm luvkitties2 on match
~Lori
Great post Rebecca...I love seeing what everyone looks like;-) Not to mention some profile ideas to swipe. LOL.
I've been on hiatus from OLD. My last date was in October, so I'm slowly creeping out of my winter hibernation and I guess I'll get my profile updated.
I'm Michele1960 on match. This profile needs a major re-vamp though and new pics (I've lost 35 lbs. since they were taken). So, if anyone has any feedback I'm open to suggestions.
Michele
Edited 4/11/2006 1:09 am ET by cheleinsf
Michele...
I LOVE your profile! Can I date you!! LOL, (kidding!) not only do you live in one of my favorite California places (next to San Jose) but you just sound like so much fun!! Lol....
Really, I wouldn't change anything with your profile write up.. IF you lost 35lbs i would get some full body shots up there (the guys really gravitate towards those) and a full face shot.. :)
Otherwise .. it's great! :)
Sheri,
I just got back from my speedating event tonight. I met 12 men. Not one was a YES!!!!. several were "maybes", some were "NO WAY, no chemistry, not enough in common!".That is the beauty of speedating. At the end of the night, you check off which men you are interested in talking with further. If you or they are not interested, there is no slight. You are sent an email of the men who want to talk with you further.
I had fun tonight, but I can't say I met a man that I felt I really connected with. But, think of it, I met 12 men in two hours. Far better odds, face-to-face, than online. I will continue to attend these events as I see them as merely one way to "get my numbers up" as the so-called experts recommend.
Hi, I realize you don't have to reject them personally while you're talking to them. I meant more along the lines of, how do you keep your energy level up for guy after guy you're not interested in? It seems that there would have to be a lot of acting. But my even bigger fear would be sitting there for five minutes with someone who was obviously uninterested in me and wasn't bothering to hide it.
Sheri
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That happened to me once, back in the dark ages of the newspaper personals. This guy was so rude - I obviously wasn't the supermodel he was expecting (because of course they're all spending their time looking for a boyfriend in the personals) and he didn't bother hiding his disappointment. Right from the look on his face when we met -- though the worst was after we got our drinks and I tried to make conversation and it was like pulling teeth. Then he just left. Made some lame excuse and walked out.
I will confess that one night about a month later, I was half in the bag and called him, leaving a message where I told him he was an a--hole. Luckily this was back in the day before caller ID was widespread (not even sure it had been invented yet).
Sorry for the thread hijacking - Sheri's comment brought this repressed memory roaring back.
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