If anyone has a problem with me as CL...

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Registered: 04-16-2003
If anyone has a problem with me as CL...
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 4:15pm
...please feel free to email me at twinkelitlestar@hotmail.com. Otherwise stick to your posts and feel free to post your opinion on the topic at hand. I am not the topic, I have an opinion and no matter if I am CL or not, I will not choose one side or the other because of that very fact. I am a poster just like all of you, and if you have issues with me, bring them up with me in private. Have a great day.



Gail

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Registered: 07-31-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 5:22pm
Haven't been on this board for too long but you gave me great advice...keep up the great work!

M.
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Registered: 06-15-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 5:25pm
Gail,

Hang in there, I think your great - very understanding and supporting and you never, ever post in a condescending or "holier-than-thou" manner as some others (who shall remain nameless but you know who you are) do.

*hugs*

Gabi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 5:29pm
If being concerned about the personal safety of one's fellow posters is "condescending and holier than thou" then I'm guilty as charged and proud of it!!!

Sheri

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 5:30pm
Thank you Mila. I appreciate the words of encouragment. I hope you are feeling better about your guy.


Gail :)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 5:30pm
You are right. For the general saftey of other members and lurkers I reported my position on your position. Again, it is just your position I find improper/potentially harmful, not your other positions, or anything else about your posts. This is an issue I have read so much about and feel so strongly about and to have someone with seeming authority taking that position in a forum like this concerns me. I am sure you understand and thanks.
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 5:36pm
Thank you for your opinion. It takes two to tango as we all know and if you dont like the way I play, go play somewhere else. That is all I can say. You know deena very well, I have not always agreed with you, and I have allowed your posts most times and I would appreciate the same respect. That is all I can say. Sorry for your loss. I wish you the best.


Gail


Edited 8/6/2003 12:46:36 PM ET by cl-survivingdivorce

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 5:36pm
Gail...I didn't say I had a problem with u as a CL...please point it out to me if I am wrong and overlooked that.

Yes u are free to have an opinion...and just because you are the CL we are not allowed to say that we don't agree with your opinion? That's all I did in my post to you.

I didn't say anything about YOU...YOU were not the topic...your opinion was.

You say you are a poster just like us...then why if I disagree with your opinion, do I have to email you about it...I thought this was what a message board was about?

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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 5:41pm
I honestly, just didnt want to make such a big fuss over my "position" and wanted to keep it off the board is all. Just trying to be polite was all. Public displays are not my style and that is why. I know you didnt mean anything by your post Kelly. Its cool. I am just saying if there are any other problems with me as a CL or a poster, or a woman for that matter, I just wish you would bring it up with me personally. No worries, I think we are all pretty much done now with the topic. lol


Gail:)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-04-2003 - 7:32pm
As I stated it has nothing to do with disagreeing with your position and everything to do with my concern for safety and my view that your message, from the position of CL is contrary to accepted safety standards of online interactions/dating (just read the articles posted right here on ivillage; I am sure they all say to meet in person first). Obviously if you have a problem with my reporting your post (which you invited, but, whatever) you are welcome to retaliate by reporting mine. I of course am going to continue to post here and will see it as my obligation as a woman to report posts that condone that sort of unsafe behavior. It's not about disagreeing - it's about safety.
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Mon, 08-04-2003 - 9:11pm
Deena, as I said earlier today, I am not condoning any behavior for anyone here. Please, try and understand someone else's POV instead of your own for a change. I simply took a neutral stand on her post, that was it. Then, I was attacked for my position because it was so called, "unsafe" for other posters. Fine you want to get technical, we can. Your posts have literally hurt people's feelings and ran off posters from this board. So, as a a poster is okay that you do that. I guess it is.

I am only stating an honest opinion, not the gospel. If you dont agree, well sweetie you just dont. You never do. Whats new? Its okay that we dont agree Deena, but the board is jumping today and if disagreeing with you and a few others gets the board this active, I may do it more often. lol

My point being, I am neutral. I want a positive vibe her on the board and to promote that, I try and stay neutral and supportive. You have a different point of view. Not a problem. I felt Gabi was doing what she was comfortable doing, it didnt suit the guideline of on line dating as so nicely put it, but it is just my opinion, not law. I do not have to agree with the so called on line dating rules as you do not have to agree with me. Same deal. Post your opinion and move on. No one else seems to have this much of problem with it. If you need to let someone at ivillage know hon, go for it.

My final opinion here, is this....I do not have to believe in the word, the bible, the law, the land, the people, the only person I believe in is me and when I say something to someone, it is from my heart. If that is not right for you, then that is why God made us all different sweetie. The only thing I have ever preached here and you know it, is to each their own. You are entitled to post as often as you like and I wish you would paricipate more as I said earlier look at the numbers today. I am not trying to anyone to leave, I am saying only that if you choose to do so, then that is your perogative.

This bickering over POV's is just not bag pal. I can do without it. I like positive energy, thus my suggestion to direct any differences to my email. We all have to have our glory. So, there ya go. Have a wonderful day, sweetie.

gail


Edited 8/6/2003 12:48:41 PM ET by cl-survivingdivorce

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