If he/she says they are "too busy" to meet in person, MOVE ON

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2009
If he/she says they are "too busy" to meet in person, MOVE ON
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Thu, 11-07-2013 - 3:08pm

If you connect with someone and you chat/email/text, exchange pics and some basic personal information,,,,,,,,,,,and both of you agree that you’d like to take it further by meeting for a drink/coffee, but the other person goes on about how they are “crazy busy” at work and/or sooooooo busy with classes, family, or (whatever)~~~~~>RED FLAG.  You are most likely dealing with someone who is lying about something and they just want to diddle around with emails/texts/phone calls for as long as you (and several others they are playing with) will put up with it.

 

Let’s get real.  If the person is THAT busy, how do they have time to visit online dating sites?  More importantly, if they don’t have time to date, why are they wasting your time?  And why are YOU wasting your time?

 

Yeah, I know, you say he lives out of town (a “safe” distance”) and some family issue came up and he just got a promotion and his boss is being really demanding and his co-worker had a death in the family, blahblahblah.  Okay, so you tell yourself you’ve “met” a great guy (who you haven’t actually “met”) and you tell yourself and others that you have a “boyfriend” and you feel that glow.  Wheee!  Except for one thing:  You aren’t DATING – you’re just living some pathetic fantasy that most likely will never amount to squat.  And if he is in Denver and you are in Dallas and he has made no real effort to meet in person or makes plans then cancels because of (whatever) and stalls and stalls then stops texting and ignores your emails ~~>you have been played.  He is married/in a relationship, or he is playing this same online game with several women just for kicks.

 

Before you allow that to happen, MOVE ON.

 

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

I totally agree.  It amazes me how people will say they are "in a relationship" with someone they have never met.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2009

 

I see it over and over and over……….women who say they have “met” a guy online and after being pressed they admit they haven’t actually “met”/spent time together.  Then the woman will say “he’s been really busy at his new job” but we text several times a day and talk for hours on the phone.  Pffft!   Gimme a break.  Good chance that pic he sent was old or someone else entirely.  And some women apparently don’t realize a person can have more than one cell phone and he’s using a cheap disposable one to text/call you.   If he wanted to meet you he would have made the time.  So one can safely assume these women are satisfied with a fantasy relationship.  Pathetic.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2006

the guy that does that are just as pathetic as the woman. I posted under singles life about a guy who had a first meet wiht me at starbucks. Ran off and told me couldn't have dinner with me but let's keep in touch by email. Then immediately sent me an email "would like to have dinner another time". I wrote back "let me know when you want to go to dinner". A couple days later, sent me a friendly note with a pic of a bobcat his friend saw on a hike.

What a retard. He thought that I would settle for a crumb of attention like that? Moi! an awesome goddess to the 10th degree would not even bat an eyelash at such shenanigans.  Kiss my tiara is what I'd say.

Sadly seem to get a lot of that lately. wonder why? Maybe they're shopping around and don't want to let any fish off the hook yet or they're in a r/s. What I wonder is more for me. Why do I get those guys?