"I'll Tell You Later"

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Registered: 08-19-2004
"I'll Tell You Later"
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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 9:32am

Well, after a brief hiatus I decided to do OLD again as it seems to be my only hope for getting dates (tried making eye contact in Trader Joe's, not realizing the dude's wife was right behind him - oops). I've had my fill of Match so decided to try yahoo instead. I've used it before so no big surprises. But one thing that irritates the hell out of me is how many guys answer "I'll tell you later" to important questions like age and whether they smoke. Until I did OLD I had no idea so many guys lie about their age, but I swear just about every single one who has responded so far puts "I'll tell you later" so I know they're older than the age stated under the photo. The smoking thing is new to me though. If they won't admit whether they smoke, I'm assuming they do and that's an immediate "next" to me.

I've only been on for a week so I'm trying to remain cautiously optimistic but the first guy who responded insulted my picture and the second one was a guy I had blocked on match a year ago for being annoyingly persistent. Oh, and the geezers are once again out in full force.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2005
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 12:11pm

Sounds like online dating hasn't changed much since I went AWOL several months ago...LOL

Don't despair- it's only been a week. Hopefully as the weather starts to warm up, the selection will improve as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2003
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 4:09pm


This is what bothers me.

Marital Status: "I'll tell you later"

What does this mean? Does this mean they're married and shouldn't be on the site? Or married but separated? What do you normally take it to mean and is it a red flag???

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2006
Fri, 02-24-2006 - 7:52pm
I read somewhere that only 3% of subscribers are married. Separated to me means that they are still married and there is a possibility that they could go back to their wives. This is another part of the online dating game. Just like "self-employed". Do they work or not?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-13-2006
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 6:21am
hello,
I feel that it is a 'red flag' because I know for a fact like everyone else who has gone on these sites that they give you a choice...either married,divoced,widowed,single,separated.So I don't know why they are afraid to say anything about their marital status.Obviously they are hiding something.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2004
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 7:36am
That is a big red flag for me as well. I assume they're still married, if they're being that cagey about it. At least the ones who put "separated" are being honest (I assume); I still "next" them, but they get a point for honesty :)
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2006
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 9:26am

BIG red flag. It almost certainly means they are married. Otherwise, why not pick one of the options? As a general rule, if someone doesn't answer a question like marital status or about whether they smoke, I assume the worst, especially if they answer all of the other questions but only skip one or two.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-01-2005
Sat, 02-25-2006 - 9:30pm
It annoys me too...especially when they put race, education, religion, drinking, smoking, or kids. Ok, so pretty much if they say "I'll tell you later" for anything. :-) Seriously, if someone's going to next you for the above, it's not like they're going to meet you and fall for you in spit of all that. Let's just save everyone time, and be upfront from the beginning.



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 02-26-2006 - 10:32am
The only "i will tell you later" i would not mind would be likes & dislikes or something. There is a REASON they ask the ? on the profile, so one can weed out who & who we are not interested.

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