I'm in desperate need of some advice...

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2005
I'm in desperate need of some advice...
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Wed, 09-14-2005 - 12:12pm

Hi everyone,

I have a problem that I wanted some advice on If I could get it. I met this guy online that I have been talking to for about 6 months now. We've exchanged pictures, talked to each other via webcam and voicechat etc etc. Well, actually we started out just talking as friends, and noticed that we have a ton of things in common. He is 4 years younger than me. I'm 23. But age isn't an issue for either of us. I noticed that two months ago, we started to develop feelings for each other. My actual problem with this whole thing is that this guy lives in Madrid Spain. He is on the other side of the world. I have tried a million times to make myself get over this guy because, lets face it, having a relationship with someone who might as well be a million miles away, is close to impossible. I was actually thinking of going and meeting him in a couple weeks, but I would only be able to stay there for a week. I think that would just end in heartbreak, because I can't afford to fly to Madrid every week to see him. What do you guys suggest I do in this situation? I mean, I talk to him every day. For hours. Should I just break it off with him? I don't want to hurt this guy...

Can anyone offer any advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 12:19pm

If you have no interest in living in Spain and he has no interest in moving to where you are, then yes, I think you should break it off.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2003
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 12:44pm

I agree with Jennie, neither of you are in a position to really make this relationship work - which would involve one of you moving to the other's location.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-28-2005
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 1:25pm
My advice is to date closer to home! There has to be a guy in your town or city that is a good guy for you! Spain is too far and if he is really really into you, he will find a way to come to YOU, not the other way around.