I'm going to send him an e-mail...

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Registered: 01-18-2006
I'm going to send him an e-mail...
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:02pm

Hey all this is in reference to the Exclusivity Talk~I'm going to send him an e-mail and tell him at this point I'm going to continue to keep my options open~basically start dating other men, and ask that he do the same.


I am deserving of someone who can commit to me~who isn't afraid of committment or of being hurt~love is a gamble and after all the crap I've been through and am willing to take the dive he should be able to as well. What do you think????? Please advise.


Tina

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:03pm

I think talking about issues like that over email (or any format other than face to face) is a mistake. I'd just wait until you see him again and discuss it then.

Sheri

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:25pm

Frankly, I don't understand why you're still talking to this idiot at all. He doesn't want you as his girlfriend. Period. End of story.

Remember how pissed you were the other day? Now you're coming back for more? Girl, you need to know you deserve better than that and kick this sorry chump to the curb. It's only been a few weeks!!! Do it now before you get even more sucked in to his drama.

You know it.

Don't send that email, don't call, just let it go.

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:25pm
I have had this discussion with him 2x and he basically clarified it for me last night. I know once I start sipping on that wine etc. etc. we will be doing the same thing just talking....I really don't have time for BS...I have meetings all day and will be exhausted at this point I really don't even want to see him tonight to be honest.
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:45pm

DO NOT, REPEAT DO NOT say something this serious in an email. I think that at the least, you should do it on the phone so that there can be inflection/tone in your voice and dialogue about this. Email is so impersonal. This is a guy that you claim to really like and were considering sleeping and becoming committed with. Email is a way to dodge conversation and is kind of a "chicken" way out.

You are deserving of all that, but isn't he at least deserving of a phone call to tell him that?

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