I'm gonna call him - what do I say????
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I'm gonna call him - what do I say????
| Tue, 08-15-2006 - 10:16pm |
After a few emails and a long IM chat, I gave this guy from match my number and he called me today, but I wasn't home. I don't have an answering machine, but I saw his name on caller ID (my cell phone died and I'm waiting on the new one to be delivered). Now the ball's in my court. Aack!! I'm so nervous. This will be my first OLD phone conversation. It was all fun and games when he was just a picture and a profile. Now I have to talk to him???!!!! What do I say? How do I start the conversation? If I chicken out about calling him tonight (I'm on the west coast, so it's still early), will it be rude to wait until tomorrow?

LOL - BREATHE!!!!!!
Ok, so I took a deep breath and I called him, but I got his voice mail. I left a message. He called me back - at 10:30! I was asleep, and the call woke me up. But I didn't pick it up because I was brought up to respect other people and to NEVER call anyone after 9:00 at night unless it is an emergency. And this guy knows I have kids and that I have early nights during the week because I get up at 4:00 am. And he didn't just call once - he called 4 more times. I finally just turned the ringer off. He woke up my kids, too. I got them back to sleep, but now it's almost midnight and I can't get back to sleep. And my alarm is going off in 4 hours. {{grumble grumble}}
What do you guys think? Is this a deal breaker? Or am I being too picky. I mean, the guy is single without kids. 10:30 to him might just be the beginning of his night. Would you give him another chance?
I am very sorry that you gave him your phone number but I understand you being anxious to meet someone....but we have to be very careful since we don't know these men.
The way he continued to call you so late at night indicates he is:
1. A night owl
2. Too persistent and pushy
3. Not condiderate and respectful of your time and privacy
He makes me nervous with the way he kept calling you so late! I would ignore this one and pray he goes away.
I am hoping your phone number is unlisted so that he cannot do a "reverse phone number look-up" on the internet and get your full name and address.
I made the same mistake as you and gave out my phone number (my number is unlisted and he didn't know my last name or address), but the guy still had access to contact me; and I didn't care for him after talking to him for just a few minutes. So, what did I do? The only thing I could think of to protect myself and get him out of my life: I knew what things he didn't like in women, so I had to talk and act like that kind of person. He emailed me right after that and said we "weren't a match" and he moved on. I don't believe in not being true, however in this case I had to do it to protect my safety and get him to go away.
When you call a guy, first press *67, wait for a dial tone, and then dial his number. That prevents your name and phone number from showing up on his Caller I.D.
Also, I have started doing research on guys before I call them. With their phone number, I do the "reverse phone number look-up" to get their last name and address (unless they have obviously given it to me already). Then I check the court/corrections websites in the county/state he lives in. It's shocking to see that the person has a rap sheet from felonies, or domestic abuse, or even DUIs! That's weeds out the bad ones quickly.
The reverse phone look up site is: http://www.whitepages.com/9900/reverse_phone
You can call the county and/or state office to get their website address for public record information.
You cannot be too cautious to protect yourself and your children.
Be safe...and keep us posted!
Callie
OK, yes, the 4 additional phone calls would freak me out and bug me.