I'm just thinking "aloud" here.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
I'm just thinking "aloud" here.
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 10:36am

I'm not a member of the site I use. I sent out a few winks last week. My email address is creatively hidden within my profile text so that men can respond to me off the site if they're so inclined. Anyhow, a couple of the guys I contacted responded - on the site though - so I can't read their messages. Also, another guy I had been considering - but didn't contact - also emailed me through the site. (I think my offline address is pretty easy to decipher - since I have had a couple of people email me - but maybe not everyone can crack my code).


There are also several old messages sitting there unopened b/c I can't read them. In some cases I know who wrote them. The site lets you see who's viewed you and if there's an envelope icon in their profile you know they've sent you an email. But some people disable this option (allowing others to see you've viewed them) so I might have messages from people I don't know about. So....yesterday I was thinking that since there are now at least 3 potentials awaiting,

 

 

 

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 10:42am

I think I'd play the odds...several emails/several potentials vs. one eharmony match.


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Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 10:49am

Did eHarmony guy see your picture? If so, it's a compliment to you that he wants communication, which is good because, you know, we're not the only ones who think you are good looking. Compliments are, of course, free.

I think you said on the other thread that you've had no luck with no/bad picture guys?

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 10:51am

If you wait long enough on eharmony, they will send you cheaper prices to join. I got an offer last week for $9.95 for 2 weeks. Yes, they suckered me in. However, I have noticed on eharmony, the guys that want to jump straight to open communication are just looking for sex. But that's just my experience.

Here's an idea. Why don't you take the basic profile info that you can see from eharmony and do a search on the other website and see if he's profile is there? If it is, then maybe join that site and contact him that way.

Just a suggestion....

P.S.- I joined the first site you mentioned. I'm still not sure this time around if it's worth my $35, but at least being able to read messages kills the anxiety and curiousity of who those members are. Instead of wondering, "Maybe a great guy emailed me. Should I pay to read it or not?", now I know. Hmmm...maybe in my case the $35 is worth getting rid of that "drama."

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 10:58am

I don't have a photo posted on eHarmony because I never intended to actually ever become a paying member.


I haven't seen his photo b/c as a non-paying member they don't allow me to see it - but that doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't have one posted.


Thanks for the compliment. And while I'm always flattered when men contact me because they find me physically attractive, what appeals to me about eH guy is the fact that his interest is based on my personality traits and not on my appearance.


I've found that a lot of guys I've met from other sites were surprised to find that I'm exactly as my profile states - revealing that they didn't actually pay much attention to what I wrote in my profile.

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 11:04am

I was thinking that almost every time I log onto eH they send me an offer within a couple of days. I was never offered a $9.95 special though. I'd try it for that amount.


I also thought of doing what you suggested - seeing if I can find the dude on another site. Actually, I think I will try that and I'll let you know if I have any success finding him.

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 11:11am
Nope. Couldn't find him on another site. I put in age, height, location and only got 6 matches - none of whom are him.

 

 

 

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 2:39pm

I've been very dissatisfied with eH.

Linda
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 4:30pm
jh - it sounds like you went ahead with the non eH option which after reading your OP here, is probably a good idea. If eH has sent you only 3 matches in 6 months, that is pretty bad. There are probably not a lot of guys meeting your criteria in your area. In the year (off and on) that I have been on eH, I have gotten over 300 matches. Yes, that is a lot but I have only met about 5 and there was no chemistry with any. They even send me matches when I am not a paying member (I think to entice me to join again). Definitely not worth the time and money I have spent with them. Their motto is "it only takes one" but you'd think out of 300+ that "one" would have showed up by now. I am starting to have better luck on Match without being a paying member so, no thanks to eH.

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