I'm new-Hello

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Registered: 07-30-2003
I'm new-Hello
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Wed, 07-30-2003 - 1:56pm
Hello everyone! I am new here and found the board because I started up w/ Match, again two days ago. My last experience left me frazzled. Several great dates, don't calls, and one where the guy bought a friend to the date, flirt w/ other women in my presence,and proceeded to go to the restroom and call his friend on the cell phone.

I am 34. I haven't dated seriously for more than 3 years (wow, thats difficult to type). I, of course, think I am cute ;), have a great job, a huge group of friends. Although I am extroverted and all of my friends tell me that I am warm, caring, engaging, and approachable, I don't have much success meeting people on my own. I am over clubbing, period. I admit I am picky, and while I do try to relax some of my gazillion requirements and be more open towards potential dates, when I do I tend to get burned (last guy was 15 years older than me, but loved to argue. Go figure?!?!?)

I totally relate to sex and the city's Charlotte, who during one episode says "I've been dating since I was 16? I am tired! Where is he?!?!?" So I am back on match. Just wanted to introduce myself, will be reading a lot and posting when I can. Glad I found you all!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 3:30pm
Hi and welcome!
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Registered: 04-16-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 3:40pm
Welcome to our board. So happy you made it over. Let me tell you, I was laughing at what you said about Charlotte on Sex in the city. That would be me as well. Im tired as hell from all this match.com this and on line this, chat room that, ASl that! ARGH! Where are the men?! lol

No, its all how you look at it. I see it as fun and no strings. Just plain ole fashioned fun, now looking for your soulmate and all that jazz on line, is out for me. I really do not think I am going to find someone like that, since now I am not looking. lol

I enjoy the game of dating and the mystery of the whole on line thing, but now that I am older and more grouned, I can see it as fun and not get so wrapped in it.

WEll, look at me go on and on. I am sure you will love being a part of our family. Love having you!!

Gail:)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 3:57pm
Welcome! And good luck! Question - what is the relevance of 15 years older but loved to argue - are you saying that because you relaxed an age requirement he should not have had other flaws (in my line of work, loving to argue is a must, but . . . .;-)). I just don't think it works that way, sadly.

Look forward to your posts!

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Registered: 07-30-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 5:22pm
Thanks everyone. I cannot say that I am 100% convinced about online dating; I do know several people that have had great success. Despite continuing to widen my circle of friends and interests and socializing, the dating pool for me seems to be draining, and I am just trying to look upon match as a fresh possibility.

And yes, relaxing standards that may limit potential dates does not exclude them from having the same issues that even a prince charming might have-sigh.

Today I have had to kindly give several guys the I don't think so. One sent me a scathing email after I didn't respond to his request for a chat. The other wanted me to call him after exchanging one email, and had falsely represented himself as wanting kids and not smoking, when in fact it was the exact opposite.

Any tips on letting people know you aren't interested from an online dating perspective?

Thanks, K!

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Registered: 04-16-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:22am
Hey K? How are things going with you??? Any new prospects or none??? Let us know how you are!!


Gail:)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 11:40am
I typically send the following email

Thank you for your email, but I don't think it makes sense to pursue this. All the best to you.