I'm so happy!! (m)

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I'm so happy!! (m)
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 12:16am
I haven't been around in the last week or so due to computer problems, but I think I've gotten them all fixed now. I drove to OK to see Don again last weekend and it couldn't have gone any better! He and I talked for hours and have decided we are going to see each other exclusively. We're officially a couple now!! I never thought I'd be one to get into a long distance relationship, but he is definitely worth it. He's so kind and when I hear him say he misses me, I know he means it. He told me he would take good care of me. We haven't discussed the possibility of one of us moving, but we're not going to rush into anything, either. We both agree that we see this as being a long-term thing, though. I'm on cloud 9! I wish we were closer so we could see each other more often, but patience is a virtue, right?

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Thu, 04-03-2003 - 7:59am
Thanks for understanding - I guess I don't want to play the role ever in a relationship of "helpless lil thing" - I have no problem with the man being the main breadwinner so long as my role is a full time homemaker and mother and as long as that is seen at least as equal to his role.
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 7:55pm
I agree, it definately has to work both ways :)



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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 7:20pm
I think it can be a lovely thing to say - for me it would be so long as the man believed he also needed taking care of by me.
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 5:27pm
You ARE on cloud9 girl! Sounds great! (nt)
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 5:26pm
A lot of people use the term "I'll take good care of you" as an expression and promise of all that encompasses a loving relationship like respect, kindness, caring, etc etc etc. Without saying all the words, it can say it all. I think it's a lovely thing to say and I wouldn't neccessarily take it literally.



jayecey
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 12:13pm
Glad to see you so happy! Goodluck to you and Don!! He sounds wonderful.

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 9:29am
Congratulations!!!!!!! I'm so happy for you...nft
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 9:12am
I understand - based on your context. For me "taking care of" in the context of a relationship has come up only when I was ill, as in with the flu. Otherwise, I want someone who cares for me and who I care for, and who treats me with respect and has my best interests at heart, but the "taking care of" wouldn't work for me as a general rule - the dynamics of that wouldn't work for me.

Sounds like things are working out great and I am sorry about your past!

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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 8:41am
That's great lissak!
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Wed, 04-02-2003 - 8:16am
He and I have talked at great length about my marriage and a past relationship I had where I was treated very badly. I won't go into details about them here, but it's a miracle that I'm even alive today. Taking good care of me means that he won't abuse and belittle me. It means he'll be there for me if I need someone to talk to and to help me through the tough times, as well as sharing the happy times in my life. It means he's taking the time to learn me...who I am, what I want out of life. He's already taking better care of me from 250 miles away than my ex did living in the same home.

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