"I'm very spontaneous!"

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"I'm very spontaneous!"
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Wed, 06-17-2009 - 4:47pm

Something I've wondered about for a long time: why do so many guys love to declare in their profiles that they are so spontaneous and that they're ready to "go somewhere at the drop of a hat!"?

"Well, I have this report I need to finish, but, oh hell, let's just fly to the Bahamas! I'm just wacky and spontaneous like that!!"

I suppose the opposite of "spontaneous" could be "rigid and scheduling" which isn't appealing either.

Can you tell I'm just really tired of reading online cliches?

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Wed, 06-17-2009 - 6:17pm
Awww come here floridagirl and cuddle by the fire with a glass of wine after our walk on the beach hand-in-hand at sunset.
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Wed, 06-17-2009 - 7:49pm

...well, only if you're as comfortable in a tux as you are in jeans... ;-)

BTW, one of my all-time least favorite words in a profile is "cuddling". Followed second by "spoil" as in "I like to spoil my lady." Bleech!

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Wed, 06-17-2009 - 7:53pm
But you can only go cuddling on the beach after you've traded your tux for a pair of jeans, both of which you look good in.
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Wed, 06-17-2009 - 9:43pm

Well, all that and more. OK. Here's one. A list of activities they like to do: kayaking, hiking, dancing, playing soccer, blalalalal. And ask 'em when's the last time he enjoyed a good hike...drum roll here...it was over a year ago. Because what he REALLY enjoys is watching something called ultimate fighting or something like that--I forget the exact name--with "the boys."

How about when they invoke plans for the future, a museum, day trip, whatever, a future with YOU, and nothing ever happens. More subtle, but it's a ploy that's been used. I just wonder if it's done with a purpose in mind.

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Thu, 06-18-2009 - 2:16am
I like the guys who "love to travel," but then you find out the last time they actually traveled for vacation was five years ago.
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Thu, 06-18-2009 - 5:00pm

As one guy said to me in his email (and then he disappeared, which was sad, because he seemed promising...but I digress), if all these people are SO BUSY, doing SO MANY things when do they have time to date anyone? Or is the idea, "This is my world...see if you fit in..."

Oh, yeah, and the ones who say they believe in kindness, treating people with consideration, answer ALL emails...and then never answer your email or never call again after the first date. Love those ones.

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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 9:11am

Oh yes, the list could go on....

I know for you, being a writer, it must be simply excruciating to read most mens' emails and profiles. I know I have a hard time (I'm not a writer, but I work with good copywriters). I really try to look past it as I know most people really don't know how to write, but if these guys have gone to college, it just seems to me like they'd know the difference between "your" and "you're."

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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 9:14am

Oh, I know. It's like they list all these things that they USED to do to make it seem like they have this action-packed, interesting life.

And yeah, I get a lot of "I'm just an easy going guy who loves to enjoy life."

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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 2:12pm

For every example used for men's profiles, women's profiles are the same.

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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 2:53pm

Oh, I have no doubt.

I don't mean to pick on anyone, I guess I'm just weary of the process. Maybe it's time for a break.

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