Impatience is not appealing

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Impatience is not appealing
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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:36am

Ok, so a really nice looking attorney responded to my CL ad. We exchanged a couple emails, he sends me his number. The unfortunate part is that I came down with a massive sinus infection this week & have been in bed for about 90% of this week when not at work (I practically have to be on deathbed to call in sick for work). So I sent him an email on Wednesday saying he would probably not get that phone call for a few days because I have a cold (I thought I just had a cold, got the infection diagnosis from the doc yesterday & now my voice is shot because of the drainage from the meds). He send me this email last night:

Annie,
I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm getting the impression you are
jerking me
around. If you are really interested in getting to know me, I look
forward
to your call. Otherwise, please stop writing me. I hope to hear from
you.

Mike

Now, I can understand his impatience...but if someone is truly sick, it would make sense that this week would not be good for calling. This email rubbed me the wrong way. Should I just write him off as an ass & ghost, should I send another email? I can't call him because my voice isn't back yet (though I am feeling better sinus-wise, thank God). I really liked him thus far, so I'm disappointed in this email. I'm leaning toward calling him with the crappy voice, so maybe he'll feel a little guilty for doubting me. Oh, I hate being that way, though.

Thoughts?




Edited 11/3/2006 4:38 am ET by travkitty

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 8:02am

That was SO rude of him.

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 9:01am
Oh my Goodness...that is really rude, not to mention WEIRD! I'd say beware of this huge red flag. Imagine what he must be like to be in a relationship with if he is this impatient edgy in real life? Especially since you told him you werent feeling well. I dont think i'd be interested anymore after this. He seems to be lacking in empathy big time.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 11:30am

What a jerk!

I'd be tempted to call him with my voice shot, just to be like, "See??? Get over yourself"! If you can even whisper loud enough to do it!!

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Fri, 11-03-2006 - 2:24pm
That IS really rude.
heather 5-18-10
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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 2:31pm

Sorry you aren't feeling well.
He seems a little bitter...I guess he's been jerked around one too many times.
I would just pick up the phone and call him. Hopefully you'll just have to leave him a voicemail. Ignore his email (don't reference it) and just tell him again you are sick. If he gets his act together and says nice things like 'Hope you feel better. need some chicken soup?' (not really), then maybe he can have the pleasure of planning another date with you! Otherwise, gracefully move on

feel better,
Devorah

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 3:00pm
As a side note, I get chronic sinus infections, so I can TOTALLY relate to not feeling well.

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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 1:23pm

Ok, so I've decided to call him anyway (my voice is back somewhat, though the coughing continues) & give him the benefit of the doubt. I've been blown off so many times online that I can relate (and I'm taking the high road). HOWEVER, I will make it clear to him that I almost decided not to call him AFTER that last email because I did find it rude & insensitive since I had given him no cause to think I was lying. I'm the type of woman who'll just ghost rather than stringing someone along endlessly. :)

I'll let you know if he continues to be a jerk.

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Sat, 11-04-2006 - 2:45pm
Youre too nice, lol.

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 11:10am
Did you call? What happened? :o)
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 11:59am

I am going to call today...I was busy catching up on stuff all day yesterday since I'm at least functional again, on the downward side of this sinus infection. I still have the cough, though, so the effect will be nice. :)

I'll let you know what happens.

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