Incident to Share.....

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Incident to Share.....
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:46pm

I thought I was madly in love with my High School boyfriend.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 1:14pm
At this point I don't see any reason to tell Ronnie. Is the ex married or in a relationship?
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Registered: 01-27-2005
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 1:26pm

I know you said it was for giggles but are you sure that was the only reason?

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
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Registered: 09-18-2004
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 2:02pm

Jodie i agree w/ Moonlight.. why oh why? are you sure it was for fun? i mean if you have a great guy why are you thinking of someone that made your heart jump out of your chest years ago?

is something missing/trying to figure things out??
i know I am going through some of my struggles /w/ nice guy

sooo is it is something else really?

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 2:18pm
I agree. I mean you found him and created a profile just to see if he'd write. That to me isn't just "innocent" you went to a lot of trouble to get in touch with him again.
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 2:41pm

Hummm-That is a good question.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 2:47pm

Hi True,

You created a profile, emailed him, then checked your email several times to see if he replied. Now you are questioning whether or not to tell your bf. Doesn't sound like a fluke to me. You had an emotional reaction, your heart was pounding. Sometimes we seek out contact with old flames when we feel like a need isn't being met somewhere in our lives, it doesn't necessarily have to be our love life. Maybe you should think a little bit more about why you looked him up.

Just a thought..

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
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Registered: 06-01-2005
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 2:50pm

Are you telling me that if you had an opportunity to get in touch with your first love.....so at the very least you can show him that you still look "good" if not better than when you dated him in HS....you wouldn't jump at the chance?


I think my curiosity got the best of me once I knew there was a way I could contact him.

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 3:17pm

This is in no way critical, but just meant to make you think. Sure, we've all thought about contacting that old flame at one time or another to show them how awesome we are now and what they missed out on. But the fact is that is usually where it ends but you took it a few steps further and not only looked him up and contacted him but felt a rush when he contacted you and have been checking your email constantly to see if he's responded again. None of us are judging your actions, but wonder if there was ANY ulterior motive in contacting him. I think the opinion that there might be something lacking somewhere in your personal life is pretty valid. It might not even be with Ronnie, but it might.

Also, what were you hoping to gain from contacting him? Just wondering.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 3:22pm

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Actually no I wouldn't my first love was my exhusband, I'd be happy to never see him again because my life is much better without him.

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And that's fine, but don't try to play it off as some playful thing, it was well thought out on your part to get in touch with this man, I don't think it remotely says anythign about your current relationship, but don't discount your role in this all by passing it off as some innocent thing.

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Tue, 11-08-2005 - 3:24pm

Yes it is making me think.

CL-Truewild1969

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