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| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:46pm |
I thought I was madly in love with my High School boyfriend.
| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:46pm |
I thought I was madly in love with my High School boyfriend.
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If all you are going to do is a send a few emails back and forth to find out how he's doing, then I personally wouldn't mention it to Ronnie.
"Are you telling me that if you had an opportunity to get in touch with your first love.....so at the very least you can show him that you still look "good" if not better than when you dated him in HS....you wouldn't jump at the chance?
you say above.. NO.. i wouldn't if i had the man of my life/love.. NO-yes i d' be curious but as far to contact him no. and no need to tell Ronnie, think of how you'd feel if he came to you and told you something he also thought of as purely innocent?
"I think my curiosity got the best of me once I knew there was a way I could contact him. I couldn't resist.
I can understand curious wanting to know how well they are doing and all that.. yes.
It takes nothing away from how incredible I feel Ronnie is, and thrilled to have such a wonderful man like him care about me."
and you care about him al ot too right??
I highly doubt I'd get goosebumps from anybody in my past *other* than someone I was head over heels for at one time. None of my high school or college friends would illicit this response.
How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot? That might help you decide if you should or shouldn't tell your current bf.
How could you do this to Ronnie? You are going behind his back contacting whichever ex's who will email you back. I think you should break up with Ronnie and spend some time alone before you mislead someone like this again.
R.I.
>>How could you do this to Ronnie? You are going behind his back contacting whichever ex's who will email you back. I think you should break up with Ronnie and spend some time alone before you mislead someone like this again.>>
Well, that's a rather reckless piece of advice, IMO. I suppose anyone who had a friendship with an ex should be alone, too? At this point, I think she should make sure she's contacting the ex for the right reasons. There's no reason to knee jerk anything in this scenario. I do think if she wants to continue a friendship with him, she will need to tell Ronnie, no doubt about it. But at this point there's no reason.
Not sure about that. That there's no reason. Character is what you do while no one's looking. Current bf is completely in love with her from what has been posted here. She's also admitted that she's not so sure. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Not everyone is on the same page at the same time. Great lengths were taken to be in contact with a former love. Wasn't just an "oh ran across your profile on suchandsuch.com" kinda deal. That's the part that I question. I think I'd be hurt to know all this if I were him and also I'd know where I stand. Not sure though - I haven't walked a mile in either of their shoes.
ITA..
I think that her intention was not to hurt Ronnie in any way. I think the point is that she needs to do some personal exploration to find out WHY she sought him out. I don't think she wants to hook up with her first bf. They are both very different people now and their lives went in different directions. I don't think she needs to TELL Ronnie anything. Just because you are in an Rship doesn't mean you cease to be your own person.
I don't think demonizing a perfectly natural act of curiousity is helpful at all. What matters here is INTENT. There may be things at work subconciously, but her intention was not to cheat on her bf or hurt him in anyway.
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