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| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:46pm |
I thought I was madly in love with my High School boyfriend.
| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:46pm |
I thought I was madly in love with my High School boyfriend.
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harsh----------insensitive
we will all agree to agree or disagree,
but maybe some don't realize they have a tone in their messages,emails and it can come across as being insensitive or harsh.. even though the writer did not intend for it in that way.
not pointing specifically to anyone in particular either..
yes we are posting to get opinions but some people's response do come across this way..
again not to offend anyone...
I hardly know what to say, as this seems to be a very sensitive topic, & is generating a lot of heated, and, I'm sorry, but harsh and sometimes judgemental input.
If I were in this situation, (and I can say this because I have been in similar situations) I would NOT tell Ronnie. I would try not to jepordize my current relationship, but would have no problem with the type of exploration you're doing. Keep your eyes open though...be careful what you're getting involved with, i.e. if your ex is in a relationship, or if you feel that you're jepordizing your relationship with Ronnie & you're not ready to do that.
What could you gain by telling Ronnie?? possibly hurting him for nothing! You're not married or committed....if you were, I would feel that it was a different situation.
Good luck, and please take all our input with a grain of salt, as we're all just speaking from our own experiences!
Hello Everyone.....
Well I do appreciate everyone's time they took to post on this subject.
CL-Truewild1969
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"I feel very confident with Ronnie. This is new territory to me. So instead of second guessing "myself"....in regards to how he may loose interest in me (hence my fear of abandonment issue and insecurities baggage) I started questioning him....such as..."what is wrong with him?" For him to be so sure about me, there has to be something wrong with him.
When someone has fear of abandonment issues they do tend to self sabotage. I can see where I could have taken this whole concern, and let it blow up in my face. "
Jodie - ditto. I have a great guy and i said yesterday hmm am I worthy of all this. Jodie I don't lift a finger. and it frustrates me.. why? i guessi I am so use to control and being the one to take care of a guy or being w/a guy that isn't so stable. I think yes, what is wrong w/ him, and what will he find wrong in me..
i also sabotage by pickign everything little thing apart about him.
my therapist said that's because there is nothing "big " to pick at.. so you have to find something else. she said it's called going down lower, meaning if you don't have the big things you try to find "something"
but anyways glad you are moving along and did what you felt was right.. it does take a lot of work. i do the same thing w/ the "i"s. it's been 5 mths and we are learning more and more. and i said also it's all about compromise.. it's hard to be w/a good guy when you are soo use to people abandoning you. you wonder when they will . i use to create chaos to test them so i would know for sure that they would stay but eventually they left.. so its hard for me not to do that. lots of work .. even tho it's all good.. :)
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