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| Tue, 03-14-2006 - 11:36am |
Recently I was having a conversation with someone whom I had just met. I told him that I spend a great deal of time on the computer. Since I am single he asked me whether I had ever used any dating sites.
I was a little shocked as to the question, but I felt that if I had told him that yes, I had used a dating site there would be about 20 highly curious questions about my Internet dating experiences which I had absolutely no plans to share with this guy. This guy wasn't my friend and we were in a group of people. I stuttered my answer with a "No, I haven't dated anyone but I have posted my profile." That was definitely a lie, what I really wanted to say was, "That is absolutely none of your business" but I didn't want to appear rude.
How could I have handled this better? I'm still furious about the question, this guy needed to know he was stepping over the line.

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Though I'm not seeing eye to eye with you on this (:o)), I have some solid advice that my mother used to use and that worked like a charm. Anytime someone asked her a question about herself that she did not want to answer, she would ask them back "Why do you want to know?" And that usually stopped them dead in their tracks.
Me? I'm a great avoider of questions. If a person asks a question about something that I don't want to answer, I'll turn it into a joke. So in your case, if he had asked me that I would have said with a big smile on my face "Date? No, I don't do dates... however, prunes are yummy..." Or something as equally as silly that would let him know I didn't want to answer the question.
Hope this helps. :o)
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