interested or not that is the question ?

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Registered: 11-05-2005
interested or not that is the question ?
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Sat, 11-05-2005 - 11:36pm

Hello Ladies,
I need our opinions on a matter,

I "met" a gentleman online a month 1/2 ago, we exchanged about 12 email, I which he did not write much about himself.... but what wrote was very funny, intelligent and interesting. He apologied for not have the time to write more often on at least one occation, but said that he really love to read my emails. Then last week he writes and asks if I want to meet him since he's in town for bussiness ( we live 300 km away from eachother) He leave me is cell number and says the "ball is in your camp" I am a very shy lady so I did not call him because I felt that I needed to know more about in order to be sure that his interest in me was there ( since he didnt write alot). So, I whote him a note saying that I was really interested to meet him but that I wanted to be sure that the connection was mutual before meeting him and that I hoped that we continue senting emails to eachother until his neet trip .....

since this email I have had no reply so I believe that he is not interested any longer But.... I know for a fact that he did open all of the emails i have sent since he last wrote ..... He still access my profile and he still grants me acess to profile and backstage ..... So could that mean he's still interested ??? or am I right to believe that he is not interested any longer

Thanks alot best of "luck" to all of you too
Winne

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Registered: 11-04-2005
Sat, 11-05-2005 - 11:58pm
It sounds like he's hiding something. He'll be as funny and charming as can be but then pulls away once you try to find out a little about him? If you truly don't feel comfortable calling him, then don't. You may just have to move on and forget about him. On the other hand, it's hard not knowing, so you could also use the direct approach and convey to him what you've said below and see if that elicits a response. Good luck.
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Registered: 05-28-2005
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 7:18am
If he doesn't write back, why bother. You've never met him....just "write" him off. I've learned this the hard way....
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 10:40am
Are you certain he received your email?

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Registered: 11-05-2005
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 12:33pm

Hello Ladies,

First of all, my apologies for all the spelling and grammar mistakes in my first message. The moral of the story is don’t post questions this late at night…..

I just wanted to respond to cl-bklynchik : yes, I am sure that he got my email, at least, I am sure he got it … the question is did he read it …..

I am new at this online dating ‘thing’ and reading all your replies and about other situation is great …. I feel less alone

Thanks again

Winnie

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 12:36pm

Winnie, I'm glad we're helping. And welcome to the board. Feel free to post as often as you'd like.


And yes, you are not alone. We have all gone through this. My advice is to get back in the game. OLD (Online Dating) is a numbers game... try not to get attached to anyone too quickly.


Keep us posted on what's going on, ok? :o)


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Registered: 11-02-2005
Sun, 11-06-2005 - 3:30pm
id say wait till he replies. how many days has it been? if it gets to be a long time (id say about 5 days) just call him or send another email. dont let it get to you! keep smiling! :)