Interested in trying it, but scared !!

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Interested in trying it, but scared !!
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Tue, 10-14-2003 - 5:31pm
Hi! I've been reading in here, and it's great to see i'm not the ONLY person in the world who wants to try this!

A friend of mine just got engaged to a guy she met online, so i've been looking into it. Then, I noticed that I KNEW 3 guys on match.com! OMG..how sccary!

I have the 'free' ad up, but am afraid to put my picture on it because I don't want them to see me. Does anyone NOT have their picure on their ad? I'm pretty good looking, if I might say so myself, and my 'free' ad has gotten 10 emails that I can't respond to b/c I haven't paid.

See the lil embarassed guy on my post?? Im SCARED!!!

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 10-14-2003 - 6:11pm
I didn't initially post a photo, but did after awhile and had no regrets - and got A LOT more responses. I think that if you don't want to post a photo b/c you're afraid someone might recognize you - sounds like you are ashamed to be considering trying online dating. If so, you might want to get over that before you dive in. This reminds me . . . I've seen guys put in their ads that they are looking for a woman who is willing to lie about how they met - I read this to mean that they are embarrassed that they've sunk to such a level of desperation that they are trying online dating - and I think that's just silly and I never respond to those ads.

I think online dating is a great way to expand the pool of people you date, btw. Just be safe - if you do meet someone, have the first meeting in a public place and drive yourself there. Good luck! :-)

ginger

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 10-14-2003 - 6:48pm
Thanks! Yes, I will try to get over it. It's a friend of mine who is making me feel weird about it. She's like "OMG..ONLINE DATING!? YOure crazy!"

Yes, I am crazy, but if it works i'm all for it!

I also need a good pic of me.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 10-14-2003 - 11:09pm
Hi,

It's hard, I know, but do not let your friends make you feel ashamed of your choices. Choose what you want to do, and be proud of it. Anyone who tries to make you feel like a loser for trying online dating is narrow-minded and I would question whether she is truly a friend. If she puts it down again - stand up for your choice, and tell her why you've made it. I personally think there is nothing "crazy" about online dating if it is done safely and with appropriate expectations.

And yes, do get a good photo! Have a friend take one, or find a good one that was already taken (recently) and have it scanned in. Good luck! :-)

ginger

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 10-14-2003 - 11:39pm

Let me just tell you, it may be scarey but well worth it. I will never forget when a guy from work, I know work!!!! Told me he saw my ad on AOL about 3 or 4 yrs ago. I was in shock and went home and took down my ad. Lol but then I thought hey, what is he doing there? You know it isn't that bad and he wasn't of management so what they hey.


I have had my stories with friends about where I met a guy especially when they lived far away. I have now gotten over it and promote it to the single people around work. I let them know the dangrs but they understand how hard it really is and frustrating meeting people in person especially when we all have busy lives. For me it is my child and community activites and now school. But, others it may be work (those in management) or school and hobbies. They see it is a way and more common now.


Do it for you or join and give a photo to those who you feel is worth it. Either way can work, or has for me. Though I have ads on about 15 sites not all have a picture and most only way you know is if you read the words because many are the same.

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