Interesting question

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Interesting question
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Sun, 03-20-2005 - 6:37pm
Would you want to date someone whose son had the same name as the infant son that you had that died? The guy I like had a son who died 12 yrs ago when he was only 3 months old of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. He has the same name as my son. Would that be too weird?
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 6:41pm

No. It is hard enough to find someone you like to make something like that a dealbreaker.

It is sort of twighlight zonish, though.

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 8:57pm
No. It wouldn't bother me at all to date someone who had my dead son's name.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 9:00pm
Sorta seems like a Seinfeld episode in a sad sort of way.
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Registered: 04-11-2004
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 9:16pm
I'd chalk it up to a sad coincidence, no more and no less.
Stephanie

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 10:58pm

HI Donna,

Agree with those here that it is unfortunate, but certainly no one's fault. I do think that in the event that he brings it up, you all might have a short conversation out about it, air it, and get past it. Sad things deserve their space and time, but then need to be set to the upper shelf of our mind--no disresepct, but we have to continue with what it is here on Earth. God has his reasons.

This does not seem sufficient to keep you from getting to know him better, and see what develops. It would more be something He could not get past. Yeppers, but I am sure it feels a little TZ (twilight zone) right now--in time, it will diminish. If it does not, he may need grief counseling,and if he refuses to do that, maybe you might need to move on, as well.

Don't buzzard it that much...just go and see how it goes.

Hope it works out the best for You!

truly,
Cupcake