Interesting way to reply...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Interesting way to reply...
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:46am

I received an email from a guy from match stating "you look and sound great, I'd love to know more". So, even though he was older than my criteria (by 15 yrs!) I responded. "Thank you for the compliment, your profile is nice, are your originally from ******, enjoy your day."
So I get an email back like this:
U: Thank you for the compliment
A: deserved
U: your profile is nice
A: thank you
U: are you originally from ******
A: yes, grew up in *******
U: enjoy your day
A: u bet, do you want to exchange email addresses?

I'm guessing U means "you" and A means "Answer"!!??? not sure...Anyway, what are your thoughts on that?? I'm basically not interested due to the age difference so I'll probably email him back saying so. But just wanted to share that interesting reply.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:49am

Why did you respond in the first place if you weren't interested? Isn't that a little cruel?

Sheri

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 9:51am

If you are not interested, why did you reply?

He sounds nice to me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:00am
I guess just out of curiousity, I responded. But he took over a week to write back. At first thought, his picture didn't "turn my stomach" (ha ha) but he's 2 hrs away and he's a lawyer (I've read the responses to sparklepuss!), so now I've had second thoughts and I'm not interested.
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:01am

Geez, sheri, you're stealing all my lines!

:)

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:19am

If a guy isn't within your criteria, why bother responding at all? Is it because there's nothing else out there?

Or maybe a higher power willed you to respond and you two are meant to be.

KITB

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:35am
Dang KITB, Sheri and amjay! You three are all on the exact same wavelength today and obviously up a lot earlier than I was and stealing all my great answers! :-)

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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:41am
funny, eh? I guess I'll just have to type faster!
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 11:40am
He's 15 y.o. older, so I guess he's trying to show himself cool and hip to a younger crowd??!! Sounds like he spent a little time thinking how to make it humorous. I wouldn't be too alarmed if I were you, but hmm..this is odd..
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 7:32pm

I find it interesting that you were thinking from the get-go that you weren't interested because of the age difference... but you still sent back a friendly, open email that extended the conversation.

If you were really truly not interested because of the age difference, you shouldn't have extended the conversation. I think that you were hoping that he'd be really cool, in which case the age thing wouldn't have been a big deal, but you didn't like his email so now you're using "age" as an excuse to break off contact with him.

In other words, you're basically being dishonest, and that's going to show through somehow. My suggestion is to just say "Thanks for the email, after some thought I can see that we're not a match. Good luck" and then block him.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-27-2005 - 8:55am
wow, I have to say I'm surprised by all of the negative comments about me being cruel and dishonest just because I responded to his email. So what you all are saying is that NO ONE here has EVER been slightly intrigued with someone enough to email them back but not interested in pursuing anything after the initial email. So from now on should I only reply to the emails from those who I feel I could commit my life to??? I don't get it. It's not like I asked him out or misrepresented myself. I was just being friendly and curious, in no way did I think I was being cruel to him. I guess I'll have to rethink who I reply to.

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