interesting website / cheaters

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Registered: 06-27-2005
interesting website / cheaters
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 9:06am
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 5:38pm

I personally think my ex cheats because he has abandonment issues unresolved from his mother choosing her boyfriend over him. So I think it's almost like a "get them before they get me"...I could always put him on there, but I kind of agree with firstamendment, I am sure not enough people know about it to go and check it out and see if the guy they are dating is on there you know?

All though have you ever checked out that scarlet A website? Oh brutal.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 5:41pm
No, I haven't!

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 5:46pm
THey come to ivillage and look through profiles and get facts from different posts and then piece em together for people. It's scary. I mean I'm not a fan of cheating but I think it's really NONE of those peoples business, who made them the morality police I do not know. It's really creepy.
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 6:23pm
Actually, the way I found out about this website, was through my local radio station. They were interviewing the woman who founded this site, and she mentioned that she is overloaded with responses and getting to them each day. So.. maybe MA will pop up down the road...
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Registered: 06-26-2005
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 8:43am

<<<>>>

Having been around this planet a several decades I have learned some lessons some of them the hard way.

I will never touch a guy who has ever cheated no matter the reason.
I will give utmost validity to any warning I am given about a prospective beau. I will even give more weight to an ex's warning
I for one will be grateful for a reference site like that, so to me its a public service
Human beings are creatures of habit that is why profiling is usually accurate. while there are rare examples of cheaters who do it once and never attempt it again, Most cheaters are recidivists.
Human nature is complex but when it comes to predictability they can be oh so simple too.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 12:32pm

FYI - I looked up this website's TOS - this addresses the issue of posting info about someone "just because you're mad at them" that's slanderous/untrue, etc.


"1. Responsible conduct. You agree to act responsibly at this site and to treat other visitors with respect. As a Registered User, you agree that:


a. You are solely responsible for the content or information you publish, display or otherwise communicate in any manner (hereinafter, "post") on the Service, or transmit to other Registered Users.


b. You will not post on the Service, or transmit to other Registered Users, any defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, obscene, profane, offensive, sexually oriented, threatening, harassing, racially offensive, or illegal material, or any material that infringes or violates another party's rights (including, but not limited to, intellectual property rights, and rights of privacy and publicity).


c. You will use the Service in a manner consistent with any and all applicable local, state, national and international laws and regulations, including, but not limited to, United States export control laws. You are not located in, under the control of, or a national or resident of any country which the United States has (i) embargoed goods, (ii) identified as a "Specially Designated National", or (iii) placed on the Commerce Department's Table of Deny Orders. Membership in, and use of, the Service is void where prohibited.


d. You will not provide inaccurate, misleading or false information to the Company or to any other Registered User. If information provided to the Company, or another Registered User, subsequently becomes inaccurate, misleading or false, you will promptly notify the Company of such information "

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 3:06pm

Oh, yeah, that'll stop someone who's bent on revenge, LOL!

I'm of two minds about sites like this...I like the idea of being able to be warned and warn others about the many bad guys out there, but I do think there is a lot of room for abuse. I wouldn't take anything posted on such a site as gospel, but I wouldn't discount it completely either. It would, like any red flag, compel me to do further investigation and reach a conclusion.

Sheri

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 3:21pm
That pretty much sums up my opinion on the matter as well, and

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 4:08pm

"I will never touch a guy who has ever cheated no matter the reason. ....while there are rare examples of cheaters who do it once and never attempt it again, Most cheaters are recidivists.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sat, 10-01-2005 - 12:48am

Personally, I don't like these sort of websites. Relationships are so intricate and complex, who's to say that the women who are posting are being objective? Plus, I'd really love to get out of the whole "men are wrong" thing... If this site were reversed, many women would be screaming about it.


There's always 3 parts to a story--his, hers and the truth-- :o).