Internet Dating

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
Internet Dating
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 3:40am

Hello All,

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsinglelovi&msg=5713.1&ctx=0

I posted this on another board and would appreciate input from people on this (more appropriate) board.

Thanks

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 4:53am
Charming outweighs looks IMO.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: hal_9000
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 9:40am

Your success rate will depend on who is interested in you, rather than how interesting you think you are.

Can I ask how old you are?

amjay

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: hal_9000
Tue, 09-27-2005 - 1:07pm
The thing that would attract me to someone's profile is if they are a decent looking, tall, non-smoker who is open to having children, doesn't sound full of himself, has no typos in his profile, put some thought into what he wrote, seems to want more than just sex, does not describe how he'll 'wine and dine me and make me feel like the most special girl ever,'

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2003
In reply to: hal_9000
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 10:52am

It would need to be a message that "spoke" to me. One that I felt was sincere and from someone who was genuinely interested in getting to know me, while also letting me get to know him. I like to message/email back and forth a few times to get to know a guy before deciding whether or not to meet in person. I feel that if we can't just carry on a conversation in a few emails then there's not a lot of hope for in person.

So... Assuming that you only write to women that you felt some sort of a connection with based on their profiles, just be yourself and you'll meet the right one sooner or later.

Sue. =)

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 5:36pm

In my opinion, I first look for someone who cared about the picture that they posted. I don't focus so much on a specific type of look, but if a guy posts a picture of himself making a goofy face because he's drunk with his buddies, then I don't even look at the profile. I then look for decent grammar and punctuation. He doesn't need to type everything perfectly, but if a guy types in all caps with no periods and spells several things wrong, then he just (IMHO) didn't put a lot of effort into it. I also bypass any profile that says, "just looking" or "just trying this out." Same goes for the profile that has a three line paragraph and nothing filled out as far as preferences go. The most impressive thing (to me) is when a guy really takes the time to write a genuine profile, with his hobbies, passions, what he's looking for, etc. A touch of humor here and there and revealing one or two cute quirks is also an eye-catcher.

Does that help a bit?

Tobi

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: hal_9000
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:16am

I would say being down to earth and somewhat charming but not trying to be something you are not or getting too aggressive and/or overzealous about it. Of course, never hurts to have a nice picture. Don't have to be a George Clooney or Brad Bitt...Just a nice smile and clean looking...the best you that you can be, in my humble opinion.

Sara

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Sun, 10-02-2005 - 4:37am

So far I have written quite a few e-mails and icebreakers to women and I have had 3 replies. One was an e-mail but I didn't want to take it further and the other two were "Quick replies".

They were:

1) "Flattery will get you everywhere"

I replied with some tongue in cheek flattery but also included genuine comments as well. I didn't get a reply

2) "Can't wait to hear from you again"

I replied with a sincere e-mail but got no reply.

This has led me to ask more questions about this process:

Would you send quick replies to men you were not interested in?

Do you think some women sign up just to have a bit of fun and tease?

Can FREE members only reply once to e-mails?

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Sun, 10-02-2005 - 8:27am
Hi Hal,
I can only answer for myself but, I only write back when I'm interested. I ignore the ones I'm not interested in.
Debbie
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Sun, 10-02-2005 - 9:43am

Hi Hal and welcome...


To me, this is all a numbers game mixed with a lot of work and a little bit of luck. Most

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
In reply to: hal_9000
Sun, 10-02-2005 - 10:15am

Hi,

I am using ‘Yahoo Personals’ and I am now very selective about who I send e-mails to. When I do I make references to things written in their profile which inspired me to write to them. I have filled in all parts of my profile but have remained vague in the ‘about me’ section. I think that if a woman likes the way I look she will want to know more about me and reply to my message. I must be generating some sort of interest because as you say, I doubt someone would reply (even with a “Quick reply” template) unless she looked at my profile and was interested. Surely it would be just a waste of her time otherwise?

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