Intimidated by my date tonight
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| Wed, 09-27-2006 - 12:34pm |
I was contacted by someone a week or so ago...he just sounds very impressive, runs marathons (and does well), cycling races, just started his own business, and recently graduated law school...and from his pics he's cute. I know this all true because i googled his name (yes i'm weird) we had been exchanging emails. When i wrote back he was like, thanks for writing back, there's a gazillion profiles online, but only a handful of people i'd like to meet. He tried to make plans with me over the weekend, but i was away, then last night, but i had plans, so we are going to a baseball game tonight as our first date.
I am so nervous. I am not sure what it is about my profile he liked...i'm nothing fancy and he is. I know i probably sound silly, but i feel like he is too good for me? I am just not as ambitious as he is at all. I feel like he will be bored by me and be thikning, Next! thoughout the whole date
Anyone expereince this? I'm not completely boring...but i guess i feel like i am next to him. How can i get over this and try not to be a fumbling fool tonight?

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Yay, glad to hear it!!!
Now get yourself online and email a couple new guys so you're not focusing on this guy exclusively ;-).
Sheri
How many pounds of peanuts are consumed in the United States each year?
2.4 billion pounds! About 50% is consumed as peanut butter.so tell me if i need to chill.
On monday and yesterday this guy and i emailed back and forth a few times. We had a good date, he asked if i wanted to do something again, he even asked what i was up to this weekend. I might not be around and i told him that but i would give him a call if he was. He mentioned he'd email with me. He did send me an email last night, i responded this morning...i havent heard back from him at all.
Is this a brush off?
Yes, relax, LOL!
Yes I do that too, it’s your defense mechanism.
I know how that feels as I've been casually dating an engineer the past few months. Every now and then I'll get the inkling that perhaps I'm too bland for him. And yes, I've felt a bit intimidated at times (our careers are very different). Ahh, then reality hits-
He's a human being. But I also know I have much to offer the right person and have been selective (hence why I'm single) all these years for good reason.
As far as ambition is concerned though, it does come in many forms. For some, it's about athleticism, being highly career driven or throwing themselves into different cultures. For others, ambition is about passion or being proficient at something they love.
So in closing, don't think for a second he's too good for you, or even out of your league. You are different for a reason- and that's why most folks don't actively seek to date carbon copies of themselves. Can you imagine how boring that would be? :)
Go have fun on your date. Be yourself and don't worry about what he may or may not be thinking. Confidence is really sexy. And if he's got a chip on his shoulder, well, that's really his issue- not yours!
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