irony 2

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Registered: 05-16-2004
irony 2
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Thu, 04-14-2005 - 7:48am

Funny how we sometimes start to doubt ourselves or judge our suitability for relationships with others -- based on limited interactions with online people who are essentially strangers to us and who themselves are usually completely inept at socializing or dating....

..people online are strangers who accept or reject us based on a paragraph of text. When we meet them they accept or reject based upon an hour of idle chit-chat....

It's completely backwards to how many of us have formed relationships in the past.

I'm just starting to get this and find it rather ironic. It's also why many people get disgusted with OLD and do not last more than a month. They assume that OLD folks are all normal (and some are) -- however the OLD experience is most definitely NOT a mirror of the real world. Not in the people you meet. Not in the way you meet them. Not in how they (pre)-judge you.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
In reply to: lg1964
Sat, 04-16-2005 - 8:56am

"We now return you to your regularly scheduled program of : email,email,email..phone..email,coffee,wait,wonder,wonder,email,next..."

But I have to believe that if you want to date, and truly want a relationship, that this drudgery is a better shot than taking your chances at the local bar/charity event/friend-sponsored introduction, etc. We all do THAT every day, and here we are doing OLD.

Tracy

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Registered: 08-19-2004
In reply to: lg1964
Sun, 04-17-2005 - 9:48am
Tracy - I agree. As much as I bitch and moan about OLD, without it I would've had very few (i.e., none) dates during the past year. And I've tried all the other stuff - activities clubs, singles dances (ugh - still repressing those memories), friends' fixups (do they even know me, I wondered).
I do think breaks from OLD are essential, as has been mentioned before.

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