is it cheating?

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Registered: 11-02-2005
is it cheating?
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 6:15pm
i met a guy online about 2 months ago. since then we have met and talk on the phone practically everyday for hours on end. he lives kind of far away so i really dont see him often, however. i really like him and im pretty sure he feels all the same feelings. he tells me im beautiful and other things like a boyfriend would. this weekend my friends and i plan on going out to some parties. i really want to just have fun, make out with some guys maybe. my guy and i have never really discussed an "us" so i was wondering if this is technically cheating? i dont really think it is but i dont want to ruin a good thing. any comments are welcome!
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Registered: 08-05-2004
In reply to: nicki8705
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:13pm

As far as I know...typically in online dating, you can feel free to date as many people as you want until someone brings up the topic of a relationship. Has he called you his girlfriend, or brought it up in any other way?

The best way to answer this question is to ask yourself how you'd feel if he did the same...would you be okay with him making out with some girl?

Also, and this is just me wondering, are you really interested in him if you're planning on making out with other guys? I mean, it's one thing for it to just happen at a party, but to plan on it is a different thing. Just wondering!

Alyssa

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: nicki8705
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 10:20pm
You are not in a committed relationship with this guy. You have a pen pal that you have met and have an attraction to. Until you have seen more of each other, spend a lot more time together and agree that you are in an exclusive relationship, you should not limit your options of meeting someone compatible in your more immediate proximity. You are not cheating if you are not really dating which you are not. Have fun and meet local guys! If you decide to keep communicating with online guy, you two need to spend more time together in the same place to decide how compatible you are and if you want to proceed with a long distance relationship.

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