Is it just me or....

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Registered: 06-01-2003
Is it just me or....
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 8:09pm
is there an inordinary amount of men on match or just on on-line datings sites in general who are/were in the military or work in some kind of law enforcement or government position? Come to think of it, every guy that I've gone out that I've met on a dating site was in one of these fields except for one. I admit I like men in these professions but I've heard they have a reputation of being players (especially police officers). One just contacted me this week and he seems nice and good-looking but I was just wondering why men in these professions seem to all flock to the on-line dating sites. Or maybe they are just flocking to me.:) I sure would like it though if the men I contact would get in touch with me but it seems I have no luck in that sense.
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 8:22pm

I'd be so happy if I'd noticed it. I come from a family of military officers, so I'd be very happy to see some military guys on match or yahoo...

Of course, only the art teachers are emailing me. Not that there's anything wrong with art teachers, but we have zero in common. :-)







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Registered: 06-01-2003
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 10:21pm
Yeah, it's important to get guys contacting you who you have something in common with but it seems that I have a better instinct at telling whether I have something in common with men on match than the men do because guys who I've initiated contact with and went out with usually like me and vice versa. But I do usually get the military/law enforcement ones (maybe it's the fact that I live in NYC and we need a lot of officers to run the city, lol)or those who take two minutes to fill out their profiles...one or the other it seems. It seems like the cute and/or intelligent ones are not interested because they usually don't get back to me even though I've been told I'm cute and intelligent. It's kind of driving my crazy because I'm thinking that there's something wrong with me or something that's making them ignore me. I have better luck with those types of men and just men in general in real life.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 12:11pm
It may be your area. Are you near a base or in a city that a lot of military people live? I live in Dallas and I see hardly any military or police guys.

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Registered: 06-01-2003
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 3:18pm
Well, in NYC we have everything in large amounts and yeah, we have several bases and our police academy are huge. Still, I find it kind of odd. Though I'm still bummed that few if any cute and well-educated men contact me or get back to me and I'm thinking maybe something in my profile discourages them from doing so. I just had one guy send me an email after I did not respond to his wink and in one of his pictures, he's with a woman holding a huge bottle of alcohol in the backseat of a car with his arm around her. It seems a lot of the men on these dating sites go on there because they can't meet women in real life because their profiles if not their pictures are attrocious. I just want to attract quality men and I rarely do on-line. I'm thinking, how do I attract some of these characters?
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Registered: 02-11-2006
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 8:08pm

hi
I seem to attract a lot of professional sucessful entreprenurial types. Maybe it has something to do with your profile?
what does it say?

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 10:21pm

I live in the Detroit area and I too see alot of either military, ex military or law enforcement types on OLD. I have met a couple of them (very attractive with great personality) only to find out that they sure do seem to be players. However, that seems to be the type of guys I meet OL and off. I have decided there is something in my pheremones (sp?) that radiates "I WANT A PLAYER" from me, even though that's not the case. It is sad that I have quite a bad taste in my mouth for police officers in the entire metro detroit area from bad dating experiences...Hopefully they are more devoted to their jobs than they are to the women they attempt to date! lol

Meg


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Sun, 03-05-2006 - 10:34am
In my pictures, I am dressed casually not in the sense of sweats but not all made up or dressed to the nines. I think I still look best when I look natural and really don't want to look fake or like I'm trying too hard in my photos. I've tried to keep my profile description short and sweet so I just state my outlook on life, my character traits and those I look for in another person with some humor thrown in. I try to keep the profile fun and not all pretentious or serious. I also provide some of my interests and favorite things, etc. I'm not necessarily looking for extremely successful professional men but those who are fairly intelligent, can put together a coherent sentence and who are my type physically. Maybe I'm just going through a dry spell on-line. The detective who wrote to me seems cool and intelligent and I will see where it goes from there with him. Thank you.