Is it just me????

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Is it just me????
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Fri, 01-13-2012 - 11:52am

Is it just me or almost ALL the men on the dating sites need showers, haircuts and shaving? Most look like they've either crawled out from under a trailor or are too good-looking to approach. I'm 51 and on two dating sites, I'm attractive and have my s*** together. Why am I not getting any hits and why are all the men so unapproachable? I haven't dated in over 15 years and I got used to walking into a bar, picking out who I wanted and leaving with them. It was easy. Now I'm too old for bars and live in a small town and can't seem to meet anyone except online. Anyone with any tips for this will be welcomed.

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Lynn M. Elliott

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 01-13-2012 - 5:14pm

Welcome to dating in your 50s!

When you say you aren't getting any hits, does that mean no men have contacted you? How long have you been on the sites? OLD is not for the faint-hearted. I'm not sure what tips to provide, but I know you just have to keep at it. Some people get lucky right off the bat. Others of us, not so much. I say give it six months.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 01-13-2012 - 5:38pm

Yup .. Join the club as I have been doing OLD for two years and I am 57 female.. Put on your armor and grow a very thick skin and put on a helmet cause its going to be a bumpy ride unless you are very very lucky.

Not to burst your bubble but just stay on ..I have met about 20 men but no matches but I still stay on and have hope.. I guess when I am 80 I will meet the man of my dreams; no just kiddding. Actually its been nice and kinda fun but also very challenging..

Atleast I had some dates .. Be cautious though and try and weed out the nut jobs.. I have seen those scruffy guys who look like they dont take showers. Its hard to screen the nutty ones but practice makes perfect..

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 01-13-2012 - 6:39pm

Dating when you're over 50 is difficult.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Fri, 01-13-2012 - 9:26pm

I just want to throw this out, don't be so hard on the guys cause the ones that you see looking like that are probably really single....lol ... as in no wife around to dress them for the picture.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Fri, 01-13-2012 - 11:07pm

well? It all sounds good on paper but heck we are not 33.. and that is the challenge..

actually when I was 33 I had a whole slew of men and I met them everywhere I was..

I have a very funny and catchy headline and profile. Lets face it they only look at the pictures.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Sat, 01-14-2012 - 11:43am
well I am 46 almost 47 so its not like I am young. and yes you have to be different from everybody else somehow. I am also not a skinny girl however I do have triple ddd's which is very obvious. I don't look my age either and look more in my 30's.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 8:06pm

I'm 72 and still on line.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 8:10pm
I uploaded a new pic of me with gray hair, how do I exchange it?

Leila
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 1:11pm

You go girl, wish I could get my mom out there.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-01-2012 - 11:46am
I also think, don't have a long profile, too much to read, let them want to ask you some questions about yourself. Have pics doing something interesting, gardening, painting etc.

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