Is it me?

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Registered: 11-25-2006
Is it me?
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Sat, 05-15-2010 - 7:59pm

Hi everyone,


haven't been around for a while need to vent alittle, I have gone out 3 times 3 different men 2 ghosted and the third last nite text me this morning that I was beautiful but no connection we went to dinner and then the movies had a blast guess it just blew my high I was kind've hoping things would work out but NEXTTT


I am feeling really down and confused this is silly I just needed to vent thanks you guys for letting me. Hope your all having a great weekend!


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Registered: 11-25-2006
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Sun, 05-16-2010 - 9:51am

Thankyou all for letting me vent and the advice,

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Registered: 09-23-2009
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Sun, 05-16-2010 - 9:00am

Hi Cubanmom,


Besides internet dating, you might want try meetups.com


You put in the local area where you live and your interests, and local groups that meet up will pop up. Some are specifically for singles, and some are open to everyone. The best ones to meet men are the outdoors activity groups like hiking, kayaking, bicycling, etc. Besides that, look in the Sunday newspaper for cooking classes in your area, or classes at your county extension service on landscaping your yard, etc. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket.


With internet dating, I went on dates with about 30 different men before I met "the one." He had been on the internet on and off for about a year and a half, but had never been on one date with it, because he had the same problem as a lot of people on the internet with "ghosting," etc. His two past long lasting relationships had ended in the women cheating on him. We were both at the right place at the right time on the internet, and I'm glad he wasn't a serial dater. We've been together for 10 months now, and are perfect for each other. Keep trying with this venue and others. It's frustrating, but worth the effort! Take care.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2008
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Sun, 05-16-2010 - 12:07am

Good, that's 3 down toward the 100 that a book I read several years ago said you should date before you make your selection...lol. I was feeling the same way for a bit, have dated 5 guys since I broke up last fall, and nothing. But we have to remember we are not looking for someone just to HAVE someone, we are looking for someone who compliments us and is worthy to be our date. It's not easy, and you never know when you might meet the right one.

Try to look at the dates as learning experiences, and remember if it doesn't work it, it's not you personally, it just wasn't right for one or the other. Sooner or later, the right one will come along.

Violet

p.s. - Took me 18 months of dating the last time I was single and looking to pair up. We lasted almost 5 years.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
In reply to: cubanmom_1762hi
Sat, 05-15-2010 - 11:49pm
this has been a new experience for me.