is it really wise to send an email
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is it really wise to send an email
| Mon, 08-22-2005 - 4:44pm |
I've sent two guys an email after a date to tell them that I had a good time and would like to see them again. Neither one of them responded. I'm starting to wonder if it's really a good idea to send these emails or just leave it to them to get back to you. I did this just recently and I'm so mad at myself for doing it because I really like the guy and I'm wondering what would've happened if I didn't send it. He might have gotten back to me asking for another date and maybe he didn't like me sending him this email.

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If I had a really good time on a first date I do send a short email after.
I don't think it really matters...if they were interested, they would still be interested if you sent the email, and if they weren't interested, the email would be moot point.
I just don't understand the philosophy behind a thank you email, though. Don't you thank them at the end of the date? Why thank them again??? Of course, if you forgot your manners and didn't thank them at the end of the date, then of course send an email, but if you did thank them already, it doesn't make any sense to me to thank them *again*. To me, it seems like a blatant, "yoohoo, remember me?" ploy for attention.
Sheri
I agree, if you say thank you, I had a nice time and hope to do it again soon or lets do it again soon that will put the ball in their court and will satisfy any doubts of interest on their end. I will add 90% of the time if the guy is interested he will ask me at the end of the date or follow up himself with an email but usually in person on the date at the end.
I think sometimes our gut knows he might not call so we send that email just to give it one last hope of try. Again there are exceptions to the rule but not my personal style.
If I've enjoyed myself, I say so during or at the end of the date.
And honestly if a guy is interested in me but is too afraid or too passive to ask me out again, good riddance!
Sheri
The nice thing to do is send an email and let them know you had a good time.
You did the right thing...the guy did not respond for God knows what reason.
Now it would be bad if you started constantly emailing the guy trying to get him to ask you out again...
Don't second guess yourself too much...good luck
Claribeth
"Don’t email; thanking them at the end of the date is good enough. If they liked you they would ask you out again regardless by the way."
I would have agreed with this thinking before our resident males - lg, eric, pg -- indicated a while ago that they felt that women sometimes send mixed signals and they were sometimes unsure of interest at the end of a date; i.e. "I had a really nice time" can be construed as a simple pleasantry rather than interest in actually seeing them again.
For them, the e-mail meant a lot!!
Tracy
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