It was so bad I have to laugh!!

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It was so bad I have to laugh!!
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Sat, 11-11-2006 - 8:17pm

I met this guy on myspace (posted about it in my "Etiquette" post) He called me this morning and we did end up meeting this afternoon. My first thought on seeing him was WOW. This guy was HOT. And...then I saw that he brought his 2 yr old daughter with him. I knew he wanted me to meet him at the play place in the mall, but I seriously thought he picked that location because it was a common place we both knew (we both have kids). I never thought of asking if he would bring his daughter - people just DON'T do that! So, I sat next to him on the bench and the guy doesn't even talk to me. He's just sitting there watching his kid play. Any attempt I made at conversation was cut abruptly short, so I'm thinking he's not into me. Fine. But then he puts his hand on my BUTT! Mind you, this is the guy that had the fascination with my butt from the getgo. I let him know I was uncomfortable and I wiggled away, so he moves his hand to my thigh. Then he tries to pull me close. The creepy thing is that we are sitting in the middle of a playplace with kids running all around, including his own.

At one point this women sat next to us and I talked to her more than I talked to him. Then she asked us "which one is your guys' kid?" OMG! I almost got up and left right then. But I stayed and the conversation actually started to get better. Then he gets his daughter and askes her (not me) if she wants to get something to eat. He starts walking and looks at me as if to say "are you coming?" So I walk next to him through the mall and he just keeps talking to his kid, not to me. Finally I looked at my cell phone and said "I'm supposed to meet my mom, so I gotta go." He looked shocked! I have never wanted to get away from a date as badly as this one!

It's such a pity, because he is so so cute. I guess that explains why he's still single. Oh, he also told me that while he was waiting for me he looked at the butt of every girl that walked by. He also said his ex-wife is dumb and you could see the bitterness spewing out of him. Hmmm....next!

I have to go on another date tonight, but this guy seems way more promising. Still, I'm so not wanting to go! Two bad dates in one day would totally suck. Right now I'm in my jammies all curled up on the couch. I have to leave in about 1 1/2 hours, so maybe I'll take a quick nap. I'm not even going to primp for this date. He seems like a good guy and so far there have been no red flags (there were TONS of red flags with the other guy - all of them true!), but I am so unenthusiastic after this afternoon's date.

Dumb boys ;)




Edited 11/11/2006 9:06 pm ET by lostbee4
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Sat, 11-11-2006 - 9:15pm

yikes i dont think i could do two dates in one day! I hope the evening one goes better for you

The afternoon one sounds AWFUL!!! AHHH!! I cant even imagine!!

'Oh, he also told me that while he was waiting for me he looked at the butt of every girl that walked by'

HE TOLD you that he was checking out other women's butts as they walked by??? He is obviously socially inept or something...that is really weird!!

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Sat, 11-11-2006 - 10:08pm

Oh my gosh, that's terrible! Yes, you have to laugh or you cry, right???

I hope your date tonight is better...it couldn't be worse--could it???

Sheri

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Sun, 11-12-2006 - 2:54am
Oh my goodness! How bizarre. That's even worse than I imagined him to be from your previous post about him earlier today. :(
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 9:34am
Oh my GOD, that's bad!!!!

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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 1:50pm
I was thinking the same thing! I don't introduce anyone to my kids until there is a definite, exclusive relationship. And he was putting his hands all over me with his kid right there...gross! I feel really sorry for his daughter. He also told me that he basically married his ex-wife to take the kid from her. Through my work I have the ability to look up anything filed in Superior courts, and I've taken a look at his divorce history. It's very ugly and with his "confession" on saturday it has become very obvious that he's a total psycho. His myspace page is all about his daughter and he comes off as this wonderful dad (the reason I responded to him in the first place), but it looks like he's using his daughter as a pawn to get women and went to great lengths to make it that way...poor little girl!
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Mon, 11-13-2006 - 3:18pm
I am cringing at your date story. Yes, it is sad that men like that are allowed custody of their children. Even if he said or did nothing inappropriate around you, he still should not have brought along his child. How tacky. :0