It's all so confusing

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Registered: 03-28-2003
It's all so confusing
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Fri, 04-25-2003 - 10:03am
I posted earlier this week about my friend and our relationship. It's been almost a week since I've been able to talk to him. He's gone everynight over to this girls house that he's dating. I'm not really sure if they are together or just dating, I havn't been able to talk to him to find out or not. He e mailed me today to catch up a little and to tell me how great things where going for him, and how he hasn't fogot about me and misses talking to me.

I really want to be happy for him since I know how much he wants someone in his life. He's already said that she has strikes against her, but I know him well enough to know that he can over look those. He's dated lots of other girls, it's just I hate feeling like the jelous one, but yet I do.

SponBon

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Registered: 04-16-2003
Fri, 04-25-2003 - 10:53am
Well, listen..since he seems to be dating and filling his time with others, I would suggest you do the same. You two are friends, and keeping that friendship is important to you, I know. So...simply keep things cool between the two of you, just dont make yourself so available,if you know what I mean. Just go do your thing and dont worry so much about what he is doing. Be his friend and nothing more for now. If he wants something more with you, then let him figure that out for himself. Just go, and be social in your area and have fun. If it is meant to work out for you two, then it will. Goodluck to you!!!

Gail

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-25-2003 - 1:17pm
I think this is GREAT advice.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-25-2003 - 7:18pm
Sweetie, it sounds like he really does have someone else who is close in his life. Whether he's told you he's dating or not is moot because it's his actions and not his words that you have to listen to. I agree with Gail that you have to get out there and meet new people, find new distractions. You can't put yourself on hold despite the way you feel about him at this moment, because his actions aren't reciprocal, he's in fact spending time with someone else. You're not supposed to be a choice. You deserve much more than this.

Hugs

Jayecey



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-26-2003 - 11:25am
All the advice is good, and i just wanted to add my little two cents

I reckon that by telling you he is dating this girl, your friend believes he has put you fully in the picture as to how his life is and how he sees you: AS A FRIEND. If he sees you as something else, he'll speak out -men have no trouble coming over.... so don't read any more into the situation, just see him as A FRIEND and have fun of your own.

Best of luck.

Sal