Its feels weird now ...

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Its feels weird now ...
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 2:48am

to talk about other dating prospects here to you guys, after all our discussions about my current relationship! But here goes .... lol


I am still on Match only b/c my year isnt up yet (i think it is in Feb) ... I dont know that I will renew, actually, no, I wont b/c at SOME point in the next few months I will expect things to go one way or the other with Carlos, if neither of us has met anyone else, so I can always re-join at a later date, if needed.

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 7:31am

He definitely sounds interesting and he seems to be looking for a friend with potential for more rather than the love of his life. Rationally, I think you should go ahead and meet if you get there but emotionally, I know if I was involved to the extent you are with someone, I wouldn't be interested if Brad Pitt asked me out.

Go with your gut. You seem to have very good instincts.

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Registered: 11-13-2006
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 8:19am

Brad Pitt? Not so much ... but George Clooney ... I would throw Carlos overboard!

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 9:49am

He sounds terrific. I say that you should go for it. You cannot be sure that Carlos is the one until you check out other prospects. And if he isn't the one, it is good to know that too. :)

Good luck!

Elsa

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 1:38pm
He sounds very well-rounded, educated and like a good guy overall. But, I would have to say that if you are looking in the near future for a serious relationship then I would next this guy because in his profile he said he wasn't looking for a relationship. That for me was a big thing that detered me away from certain guys online because when I was looking, I specifically wanted someone that was in a place in their lives where they were open to a serious relationship and seeking that out. I know that eventually you would like a commitment from Carlos but you are not exactly in a rush for that now. I would stick with only dating Carlos if I were you to see where that goes and what materializes because you probably would be more confused dating another guy who is not looking for a relationship. But I know that you have to do what's best for you. I know I'm just stating what I think would be best from MY point of view and perspective. I know for me it's just too tough dating more than one person especially when I really am into the person I'm dating. My opinion might not be the popular one but I would honestly say to just continue seeing Carlos and no one else and when you feel that the commitment conversation needs to happen then try to talk to him and see where it goes from there..........
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Registered: 04-29-2003
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 4:14pm

I agree with this poster. I could be wrong here (probably am) but I do notice you seem to be going after men that aren’t really available for a relationship i.e. Carlos and now this guy – pattern?

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 5:17pm

He sounds pretty awesome....How is it that you find all of these really great guys - perhaps it is time for me to move back to the Northeast...?

All I get are guys that think my hair is sturnishing..and love the fact that I have no gaps in my teeth!! OY - arent those requirements if you live in the hill country of the Ozarks...? (No offense to those that live there of course!)

He sounds great - and my advice...see what happens. I mean you may meet him and still not feel that jolt like you do with Carlos...but keep your options open girlfriend!

Cheers
Sarah

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 5:42pm
Agreed, I believe when you are looking for a relationship it's best to be looking for someone who knows that this is what they want because it makes it that much easier and you won't be setting yourself up for disappointment in the future. As far as with Carlos, I believe that rlch should stick it out just to see what happens because he does seem like a great guy and she already has deep feelings for him and to let it go for a little while until she's comletely ready and sure to have that talk with him, because I know she's not completely ready and sure that this is what she wants either right now with him. But not to seek out other men who aren't looking for a commitment. I had short term r'ships with about 4 of these types of men all in a row who weren't willing to commit and even though these men were very likeable and good guys for the most part, I decided that I was completely done with and over that because I want children and marriage in the near future and I knew I was depriving myself of that by dating these sorts of men, so I searched for someone that wanted those same things and I'm so happy to have found him and it's just so much easier when you aren't playing that guessing game of wondering where you stand with the person. I"m happy for you small peanut that you found someone you connect with as well!
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 5:57pm

I agree that Carlos sounds great and I agree she should see what develops with him at this point – its been 5 months which is a substantial amount of time to decide if you want to be exclusive. My only concern is he doesn't sound optomistic that he will have a family in the future (so I say find out more about that and where his head is at).


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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 6:34pm

I just have to laugh ... can you IMAGINE is Carlos came across this board? CRIPES! lol

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 8:06pm

Again, hope I’m not sounding negative not my intentions but this guy say he probably doesn’t want kids – that means he doesn’t – so what is the point?

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