It's happened...I've fallen in love

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Registered: 04-02-2003
It's happened...I've fallen in love
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Tue, 04-29-2003 - 9:01am
When I was going through my divorce a year ago, I never thought I'd be able to give my heart to someone again. But, it's happened. I met Don online almost 4 months ago and even though we only get to see each other once a month or so, I've realized I'm in love with him. He's almost all I think about and I miss him so much when we're not together. My problem is that I'm afraid to tell him how I feel. I know that he cares about me and that he has real feelings for me (he tells me all the time), but I don't know if we're both at the same place. I'm planning a trip out to see him again on the 9th and a part of me wants to tell him how I really feel, but I have this overwhelming sense of fear when I think about it. I don't want him to feel pressured into saying something he doesn't feel yet. I know I'm not the only one who has felt this way and was wondering how others have handled it.

Thanks for any advice you can offer...

Melissa

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-29-2003 - 10:32am
Why not wait until you can see him regularly (once a week or more) for at least a few months and see how you feel then when you've had more of a chance to confirm whether your feelings are borne out in reality. I don't think thinking about someone all the time or missing someone all the time is necesarily love - it might just be yearning/longing/infatuation/absence makes the heart grow fonder - or it might be love - why not take the time to find out what it is, before being that vulnerable?
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Registered: 04-16-2003
Tue, 04-29-2003 - 11:43am
Well, Melissa, if it is meant to be it will be. The man you love will love you. Dont worry. IF you really feel this strongly for him, dont worry so much about his repsonse. IF he loves you, he will tell you. IF he doesnt, then maybe he is blind. You seem like a great catch!! He is in love with you, dont worry! Tell him!!!

Gail

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-29-2003 - 12:46pm
I agree with Deena and Gail...the one mistake I always make in relationships is that I put too much of myself in there and I end up getting hurt. Wait and see if your feelings are still there in a few weeks or wait for him to come to you....if you tell him first your putting yourself out there and there is the very real possibility that you could get hurt! Be careful and big hugs :)

Lindsay

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