It's Just Not Going To Work

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Registered: 06-27-2005
It's Just Not Going To Work
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Wed, 08-31-2005 - 1:46pm

Okay 2 things.

1) Bachelor #2.. you know Blue Shoe Guy- well, I'm supposed to go out to dinner with him this weekend... I don't think I can stomach it. Last night he calls me and he sits on the phone with me for 20 minutes while I am finishing up a movie... I tell him I am watching a movie, and then I hear him in the background put the same movie on (it was on HBO). So here we are both on the phone, neither of us talking, excpet when I am grossed out or scared from the movie ( The Grudge) and I am trying to not just hang the phone up. Then for the fourth time he tells me which bootlegged movies his buddy is hooking him up with and I'm like- "hello, you have already told me this"!!! I swear if he says it again I am going to explode. That is why I just don't think it's going to work. I mean I don't have anything against people who get bootlegged movies, but he's like bragging about it and I just feel like that is something to keep quiet, b/c it simply tells the other person that you are too cheap to go to the movies... am I wrong???

2) There is like zip,zero selection out there on my yahoo personals... no one new, no one interesting..I am so bored with it. Is it always like this?

So, anyway, I think I am going to let this guy know that it's just not going to work with us. I get a little sick feeling in my stomach when I think about seeing him again or even whent the phone rings. so could I just send him an IM? And do any of you have any suggestions?

Thanks,... I guess it was more like 3 things.

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Registered: 09-02-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 2:03pm

Ummmmmmmm, I'm pretty sure nausea at the thought of going out with someone is a bad sign.

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 2:12pm

From what he's told me he doesn't check the email that often, but I can definately do that first.

I've signed up on AMerican SIngles, match, lavalife... I just don't see anything I am compatible with. Or I send winks/icebreakers and never hear from anyone again....

Here is what I am looking for: Black, male, preferable between the ages of 26-34. Highschool education at the least, does not live at home, income greater than 29,000, with in 60 miles of my zip code, height: 5'7--? body: slim, average, toned, a few extra pounds,..

I don't think that is too picky, you know? Or is it?

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Registered: 09-02-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 2:23pm

Are you finding that maybe they match your criteria, but then you decide against them once you read the profile?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 2:31pm

I would just note that many people who make more than 29K do not post their incomes at all. I certainly don't...that's no one's business but my own at this point. So I put "any" with respect to income in my searches...that's something that can be sorted out later.

Sheri

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 3:05pm

LIke just now, I went to Match and did a search and I only found out of 34 pages like maybe 3 guys to wink at. Maybe I should go to blackplanet or something? I just am afraid that some of those lesser known places may be better known for "hooking up"?

My criteria is extremely open, the only thing I really like are black men and the age criteria... averything else is negotiable, you know?

Very frustrating!!!

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 3:43pm

Hey sistah-girl I'm feeling you! Where do you live??

I would widen my age range, put "Any" for income (some people don't list their income).

Check out Black People Meet and Black Match (new ones - $9.99 month)!! Definitely would not recommend Black Planet, but back in the day it was free and most are on other sites.

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 4:17pm

thanks.
can i go on black people meet, even if I'm white?

(black men are just my preference!!!!)

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Wed, 08-31-2005 - 8:00pm

I think you should try black planet. I have a lot of friends who are on that site and say they meet plenty of guys. I myself am currently dating someone I met on Myspace. Also..the best part about these networking sites is that they are free, since the main motivation of the site is not dating but making friends, I find there is less pressure.

Hope that helps,

GM

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