I've realized something big...

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Registered: 05-31-2005
I've realized something big...
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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 9:59pm

I really dislike first phone calls. I mean to the point where I'd sometimes rather not call than call to meet a new man. Isn't that crazy?


Today I talked to this guy via email and all went well. He offered me his number and I accepted, said I would call later. Well it took me hours and a lot of prep-talk to get me to pick up the phone. We had such a great convo. But it made me realize how anxious I am about those first phone calls!


What about the rest of you?

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 10:07pm
I'm sort of like that - I'd rather make sure that he's not a psycho, and just meet someplace public. I absolutely dread first phone calls.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 12-04-2005 - 10:19pm
I think I dread first meets too. LOLOL (What am I doing in OLD then? LOL)
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 11:06am
I'm the same way...I absolutely hate it and it causes me a great deal of anxiety each and every time. Once I do it though it's usually always fine. I've found that the lesser of the two evils is for me to make the call rather than wait for him. More control that way and in a weird way it's a great fear conquered once I've done it and I feel great;P
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Mon, 12-05-2005 - 1:23pm

Hmmm didn't think about the accomplisment part. Good idea. For some reason, I like them to call and then call them back. I guess I like to hear what their voices are like before I get stuck on the phone. LOL


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Registered: 07-20-2001
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 1:38pm
I don't get as anxious over phone calls either way anymore. I've received calls from guys as well as made calls to them. With OLD I was under the assumption that a phone call (or several calls) was the next step prior to actually meeting a guy. I've since learned that a phone call (or sometimes even a couple phone calls) means nothing in the grand scheme of meeting and dating. I try not to assume (anymore) that just because a guy calls me means he wants to eventually meet me. It's a form of game-playing in my opinion and is a waste of both our time.