Jumping to conclusions...
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Jumping to conclusions...
| Wed, 11-08-2006 - 10:29am |
OK, I didn't want to hijack the other thread, but do any of you think that at times we women are just as guilty if not moreso of jumping to conclusions about guys "just not being into us" because they don't follow some magic formula we have in our heads of how they MUST act in order to be into us?


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You said, "No guy is ever going to be everything you want" but it helps to weed out the most important criteria! I don't have a "magic formula" of how a guy should be. Every situation is different. I feel like I make good decisions when it comes to men, and it is better to be alone for a while and chose the right man finally rather than be with someone all the time and the quality be pretty bad.
I am absolutely not downplaying women's experiences.
I'm sure it happens, but I think most of us have actually put some thought into how we want to be treated and whether our needs and desires are reasonable or not. We're all allowed to want what we want, and if we're not getting it, it doesn't make sense to settle for that person.
I also think most women give way too much benefit of the doubt, personally.
Sheri
Hmmm...I guess I don't understand your point, then. If you KNOW that you can't be with someone who is unreliable, for example, and a new guy shows signs of unreliability, then why would you keep seeing him? If you KNOW that you need to be with a guy who calls you frequently, and new guy never calls, why would you keep seeing him?
You may not have the same criteria and that's fine, but we shouldn't judge what's important to other people.
Sheri
That's why I said what I did about having put thought into what we want and considering whether our expectations are reasonable. If someone is expecting "perfect", then perhaps that's not reasonable.
Besides, you can tell, I think, when a guy cancels and is sincere and apologetic in his regrets and truly wants to make it up to you, and when he's just phoning it in.
Sheri
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