just came back from my date
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| Sat, 12-17-2005 - 12:59am |
I just came back from lunch with T who I met at speed dating. He wanted to take me to this really expensive resturant in Sydney which has a full view of the harbour... but it wasn't opened, so we went to another one nearly by and sat outdoors and the weather was gorgeous. We shared a seafood plater and he paid for lunch on his way to the bathroom... so I didn't get a chance to offer or anything... I hope I didn't do the wrong thing. After lunch we walked up to the shops where he had to pick up his suit that he will be wearing to his friend's wedding and then we walked back to the car and he drove me home.
I think it was a really nice date and I enjoyed it. The previous date he kissed me on the cheeks when we met and when we said bye. This time he didn't... I don't know if that means anything!
I think we get on really well and we have things in common and I have to say that I'm really happy. He's going away with his friends tomorrow for a few days and he said he'll call me and I think he looked pretty happy when we said bye.
I don't know what's happening, but I'm supposed to be going on another date with another guy on Monday- but he hasn't replied to my email yet, so it may fall through... then there's M who has been overseas and in the last email he said he's coming back and wanted to meet this weekend... I told him tomorrow (Sunday lunch) would be great and said "call me when you get back"... so far my phone hasn't rung.
That's all for now! Thanks ladies for your posts!!

Congrats on the good date. Now... a bit of a lecture! LOL. Stop worrying about paying your way. If a guy likes you and you like him, let him pay. Otherwise it can send mixed messages. When the time is right, if you feel like you want to do something nice in return, buy tickets to something he likes and take him. Or make a dinner for him... Get the idea?
I'm glad things are going well for you and that you didn't put all your eggs in one basket! Keep us posted.
Kerry
Thanks Kerry.
I've just come back from a date with M. LOL that was like the 2nd date (each with a different guy) within 24 hours!!
ok, so this guy M... he called me last night and arranged a date. He just flew back into town yesterday afternoon. Anyhow, I was NOT impressed with him at first sight. First of all physical attraction, chemistry: NONE at first sight. But still, I was willing to give him a chance. Then he shook my hand and said oh at least we meet- my email penpal. Penpal????? what the??????
Then we went for coffee... which was fine... I found the conversation didn't really flow and he wasn't making much of an effort to keep it going. For the sake of politeness I thought of interesting things to say. After coffee I was seriously thinking that was the end of the date... but then he said let's get something to eat. I was a little hungry so I said ok. He took me to a food court- I don't know what you guys call it in the US, but it is like the take away/fast food section in a mall. NOT impressed. I thought at least he could have suggested a cafe or something!!
The worst thing was that he told me he's been out with this girl from this country and another girl from another country. It was a total turn off! Right at the end he shook my hand said that he enjoyed it and will email or call me tomorrow. I don't want to hear from him again... or if I do I will tell him that he's a nice guy but romantically I'm not interested. I don't think he was arrogant or anything, I was just turned off. It doesn't matter how educated and well cultured he is... it was a turned off!
So tomorrow I'm supposed to be going for drinks with another guy I met from speed dating... only he hasn't gotten back to me yet. So it might not happen but I'm not disappointed. After yesterday’s date I really like T! I don’t think I’ve had this feeling for a long time! Feels great!
Wow. I'm surprised about M but glad that you hadn't made any rash moves!
You're on a real dating hot streak. LOL. You go girl! ;o) (Can ya send some my way? PLeaseeeeeeeeeeeee? heheh)
OK, I'm not gonna say "we told you so!" but... :-) Now aren't you glad that you didn't put all your eggs in one basket for out of town guy before you met him? I have learned the hard way that you never want to get your expectations of someone too high becuase it is SOOOOOO hard for them to live up ot your expectation. They can look so perfect on paper but not be all they seem in person.
That said, I am really glad your other speed dating date went well. And who knows, you still could hear from the other guy. Good luck and have fun!
Oh and BTW - COMPLETELY agree with Kerry on the paying thing. He probably paid while you were in the restroom because he just wanted to pay and didn't want to put you in an awkward position of offering and them him insisiting. When you go out again, you can simply offer to do something else for him some time.
Oh and lastly, yeah, food court - bad move! If your malls are anything like ours, usually there is at least one or two decent restaurants in or near the mall that are at least a step or two above McDonalds! Oh well, moving onward and upward!
Here's the latest update:
This morning I messaged T saying thanks for the date and that I enjoyed it. He replied and said that it was good to see me and he wants to see me again later this week when he comes back to town. So I told him to text or call me when he comes back. We've actually never really spoken on the phone. He's called me once and that was when he was coming to pick me up for the previous date. But I'm not really bothered by that because some guys are just not good with phones and that's ok with me.
I got an email from G- finally... I was supposed to go for drinks with him tonight. He said that he's been flat out and has left a little late to arrage anything for tonight... but he made an arragement for tomorrow so I texted him and told him that I will be free. I really don't remember what he looks like now... I hope when I see I will!
Funny thing is, the only guy's face I remember from that speed dating night was T- when I went on the first date I knew exactly what I was looking for! And G- I only remember him as nice and blonde haha!
Do you guys call it the same thing- texting- when you send a message via your cell? (a cell in australia is called a mobile!)