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Just had to share
| Sat, 10-08-2005 - 9:38pm |
Hi everyone! I haven't posted in awhile. My life is busy beyond busy. However, I jsut felt I had to share soemthing with everyone. The guy I met on eHarmony at the end of July...the one everyone thought was too good to be true. Well, he was exactly what he portrayed himself to be. He treated myself and my daughter well. He and I talked, e-mailed, or text messaged each other everyday. He gave me his password to his on-line accounts, even though I didn't even ask. It just came up when I was using his computer and he had me access soemthing for him. He said ," I don't have anything to hide from you" and he didn't. He took me to Vegas. We stayed at the Bellagio. He had a dozen red roses with one yellow one inthe middle delivered to the room. It said how one always stands out in the crowd. I could go on. The sad part is that I always was questioning my feelings. I guess I was hoping my feelings would grow over time for this man that was absolutely wonderful. I was always honest with him about my feelings. However, I knew his feelings for me were much stonger than mine were and he deserved better. I finally "ended it" our relationship yesterday with the hopes we can be friends. It has been an emotional experience for me, and I keep second guessing my allowing such a wonderful man out of my life. But, I did want I think woul dbe in his best interests in the long run. My point of sharing this story is to let everyone know that some great men do exist, contrary to my own beliefs. I can only hope to find someone as great as him again, that I also share the same romantic feelings for.

If this guy is as great as you say and likes/respects you enough to want to be just friends (and acts upon it) then he is a true blessing. And a very rare one. You just might be better as friends then in a relationship.
>God finally sends someone along that is a really
>great guy and I "toss him away" because I don't
>have that chemistry.
I can imagine God thinking, "Gee, I really thought I had made a good match. I better leave this dating stuff to the Internet and focus on other miracles instead"
I understand what you are feeling. But think about this: you attracted one great guy into your life, which means you can attract another!
And yes, your unselfish act will be repaid. It's called good Karma, gf.
Hi momma,
You know, God doesn't necessarily send people in our lives that are meant to stay there. Sometimes it's done to show us what is possible. So maybe he was brought into your life to show you what was out there, not necessarily remain in your life for the rest of it?
Curious about one thing and this just may be a personal thing for me--why do you want to remain friends with him? If he's in love with you, he'll be hoping that something will start up again. And is it possible you want him around so you don't lose him or what he adds to your life? Maybe a clean break is in order to let his feelings slow down? Just a suggestion...
Please, keep us posted and feel free to share whenever you need to!
It takes a strong woman to break it off with someone you know is a "good guy" but you know you're feelings will never develop into love. I've had to do it and when you're in your 30's it is scarier as in the "unknown" but TRUST me you will find someone. It could be next month, next year or 5 years from now but if you believe in yourself and the power of love then I truly believe you will get it. Bravo for your honesty, I wish more people could be as upfront when ending a relationship instead of avoiding it.
As Amjay said, if you're a good person then Karma will return the favor.
Take care of you right now! Go do something just for you. Never second guess your gut, you did the right thing.
SP