Just joined a site & have questions about contact

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Just joined a site & have questions about contact
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Thu, 11-11-2010 - 9:41pm

OK I just joined match and was kind of surprised that guys will IM right away as the first contact--no wink, no email, etc.

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Registered: 04-17-2008

I am picky, too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

I really didn't get much interest from guys on POF.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2008

What a jerk!

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Registered: 10-16-2006

I usually don't respond to men either who I'm not interested in because of the nasty emails I've gotten in reply. Sheesh. And men complain that they don't get replies. I guess it's a case of the few ruining it for the majority.

May I offer my two cents about your coffee date man? I too prefer to meet for a drink--for me it's more festive and I can dress better. There were probably other reasons you weren't fired up about meeting the guy anyway, but could it be that he doesn't drink alcohol? Plus, I've heard from a number of people--both men and women--that they really prefer coffee over drinks. But I know you also didn't want to give up weekend time for a long-shot meet--I get that. But it surprised me to learn that not everyone wants to meet for a drink. :)

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Registered: 04-17-2008

His profile stated that

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Registered: 04-17-2008

I hate IM'g, too.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2007

the girls at work told me I needed some practice dating since I hadn't dated since I was 17 so they encouraged me to meet a guy after work for dinner that I had talked to once or twice.

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Registered: 04-17-2008

Ewwww....accountant sounds yucky.

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Registered: 11-07-2007

bb people meet was the site I used.

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Registered: 11-07-2007

Oh and I started considering out of town because I live in a small town to begin with but I wanted someone educated and different from the men here.