Just need to vent a bit

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Just need to vent a bit
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Sun, 12-10-2006 - 3:09pm

I just sent a "thanks but no thanks" email to a guy I'd been out with 2x (and immediately blocked him so I don't have to deal with any responses). We had dinner Friday night and I had a good time, until the very end when he kissed me and ended up sliming me with way too much tongue. I instantly got "the ick" but I was trying to work through it and thinking, well, maybe I can teach him to be a better kisser. So I was on the fence.

Well, he called me not once but twice yesterday, after I'd told him Friday night that I'm singing in 2 concerts this weekend and therefore things were busy for me--I was out running errands pretty much all day yesterday so I missed his first call and then I didn't pick up when he called again because I was annoyed at him not giving me a chance to call back. So then this morning I get an email basically accusing me of being rude because I didn't return his calls on HIS schedule. I wrote back that I could only conclude that since he couldn't even give me a day's grace, esp when I'd told him I had a busy weekend, that we're not a good match.

Oh, that irritated me! Of course, the fact that I was on the fence about him anyway didn't help, but even so--I hate it when someone doesn't respect that you might have other things you want to do other than call them back immediately. I might have worked through the kissing thing, but him badgering me to call him made it impossible for me to do so.

Anyway, I'm now down to 4 prospects from 6 just a couple days ago (I decided I wasn't interested in a 2nd date with one of the guys I met a couple weeks ago), and 3 of them I haven't even met yet so who knows if anything will pan out. And of course the guy I have met in person, I really like (we've been out 5-6 times now), but he's being lukewarm.

Isn't dating fun???? Ugh.

Sheri

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Mon, 12-11-2006 - 3:44pm
Wow, to reem you out for not calling him after 2 dates. That's pretty crazy. Good thing you crossed him off your list. I'm having a feeling that he probably has been rejected a lot of times before and was just scared that you were going to reject him too so he was acting out of desperation and anger. Not a good early on impression though and people need to learn to just chill and be patient with others ESPECIALLY at the beginning. Dating is very fun, loads and loads of fun ;-)
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Registered: 06-08-2006
Mon, 12-11-2006 - 4:04pm

Coolas,
I know how you feel about these guys that come on strong pursue a woman to ends of the earth and then just vanish. I don't get it, but it seems to be a pattern for men these days IRL and OLD.

Good luck,
YG

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