Just not that into me!

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Just not that into me!
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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 3:15pm
Hi all and I'm sure you've heard this story before. Met a guy online we emailed for about 4 months, fell in love with his words and love songs.I couldn't wait to come home from work and read his emails. Finally we met, clicked, he asked me out again, oh yea! Went out, but something hit me, and I went back onto the site we met, my membership hasn't expired, but I removed my profile. There he was searching and talking. When I confronted him, he said he was played before and proceeds with caution, huh! I waited 13 years to get back into the scene again, and this is what guys do? Been married once for a long time, so we aren't kids. I stupidly emailed him and said I was in 100% and felt he wasn't and if he needed to keep looking for someone better than leave me alone, he did! Being new to all this online stuff, I understand it is normal for guys to keep looking. I sent apology emails about 15 of them, no response. I really miss him because I fell in love, did he, probably not especially if he needed to keep looking after being on d-sites for 3 years. Well, since last week he quit all the sites, what a putz he should have done that before. My problem I can't stand not talking or seeing him. I know what I need to do, but we were so good together.....an empty space without a return stamp!
Sloan2010
Sloan2010
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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 4:16pm

Your thread title says it all.

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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 6:42pm
I am sorry that things didn't work out for you, but I wouldn't expect a guy to "stop looking" after one date. That's way too early for an exclusive relationship. I think the problem is that you emailed for so long before meeting that it seemed like you had a long relationship. Maybe in the future, you should meet earlier.
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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 8:25pm
Thanks for the reply, and you are so right, I always wondered why he just emailed. Many times he would send 15-20 jokes daily, some were offensive, I pretty much determined he had major issues, maybe afraid of women and just emailing was safe for him.. Again thanks, I appreciate your thoughts.
Sloan2010
Sloan2010
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Mon, 01-18-2010 - 9:25pm

Hi there.

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Registered: 12-26-2009
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 10:33pm

Welcome to the wonderful world of dating! LOL There are all kinds of new rules out there to be interpreted and some are not easy! Thank goodness for girlfriends-real and virtual!


I usually have a rule with online dating-I'm not looking for a penpal or email buddy, I would like to meet someone with potential for an actual relationship-my new manperson is deployed and 12000 miles away so we only have email, phone calls and Skype, but there are exceptions to every rule :)

Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you!

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Mon, 01-18-2010 - 10:52pm
Thank you so very much for all the support and online advise. I learned a lot, hopefully there will be a next time. You are all awesome and I needed your input, I appreciate your thoughts. Thank you a million times.......
Sloan2010
Sloan2010
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Registered: 12-27-2009
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 8:13pm

Yes, I'm sure you'll find a great guy.




Edited 1/19/2010 9:19 pm ET by mikeysnana
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Registered: 12-22-2009
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 11:06pm

There’s quite a difference between your first post and your others.

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Sun, 01-24-2010 - 2:12am
IMAO you over reacted. He has a point as would anyone who have been "played"! Being played is feeling there is a connection as they and there friends get a laugh out of you feelings.
Another thing HE JUST MET YOU! He told you he had been hurt!
When you say "I waited 13 years to get back into the scene again". What were you doing for those years?
You fell in love with the writer but did not listen to him.
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