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| Thu, 03-24-2005 - 1:01pm |
Hi Everyone,
I know it's been some time since I've been around. I haven't abandoned you. I have been lurking now and then just to keep up with what has been going on. But since I don't even do that as often as I would like, I find it SO hard to catch up! Well, that's the beauty of this board...very active and always so much neat stuff going on!
So, whether you want to hear it or not, here's my little update. Think of this as that annoying holiday newsletter your relatives like to send. Ignore at will! :)
OK...Been spending alot of time shoveling snow this winter here in the NE and last night's little kick in the butt just added to it. But since I don't have to be anywhere unitl much later, I'm letting mother nature shovel for me today.
School started again in Jan and have been having a heck of a time keeping up with my assignments. I'll blame my kids for that as their hockey season has the nerve to overlap with the start of school!
I'm still dating the same guy I met on eHarmony in the beginning of Oct. He's the one that I kind of "whined" about because, at first, there weren't any sparks, then he was so busy,etc. And then I complained because he wouldn't let me pay for anything...still doesn't. (Yeah, yeah...I'm a pain in the butt!) But that really has been going so well. We're both definitely in a LTR frame of mind...and exclusive.
I really threw out all the rules on this one. I do NOT offer this as advice, just my experience. I was tired of analyzing every word, twitch, whatever. I decided that this time I'm going to to just jump in and go for it. Go figure.
I think about all the time I spent thinking about, and posted about, and fretted about "What does it mean when...?", "When should I...?", "How come he never...?" and here everyhting is just falling into place so nicely. Almost effortlessly. Maybe that's what happens when you meet someone who is on the same page as you are? Anyway, I consider myself lucky. Nope, I can't trace this back to one brilliant, strategical move on my part.
So,that's pretty much it in a nutshell...school, kids and a guy! It's been great to "see" you all again and hello to all the new kids on the block. I'll try to be around more often now that hockey seasom is over!
BTW LG...Absolutley LOVE the new photo!!! I've always enjoyed the many sides of your personality! ;)
Edited 3/24/2005 2:04 pm ET ET by luv2004

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Thanks for the update, and good to hear it's going well! It's remarkable what can happen when we quit overanalyzing everything and just kind of "go with it", isn't it?
Keep having fun... with the guy, shoveling snow, shuttling kids to hockey, etc. With life, in other words. ;)
Thanks for checking in; I like your view on your new relationship and couldn’t have said it better myself, that is how M and I – very natural and no analyzing and so far so good!!
Cheers,
SP
Hello luv,
I'm Sunshine and somewhat new here. That was nice of you to post about how your relationship is working so well. I know many people get down about OLD and how it just doesn't happen as quickly as they'd like it to, but when it does finally happen , it is great.
I am in an exclusive relationship right now and what you said about not over anayzing the relationship is so true. I haven't worried about the future and what every little thing means and this relationship is just falling into place and just happening also. It is nice when it works like that. We are into our third month now, but I am just letting life happen,... so who knows what could be...
Best of luck to you with your school, your family, and your guy!
Sunshine
I think when we overanalyze it’s like a self fulfilling prophecy.
Hey there, nice to hear from you and I'm glad things are going well!
I think what you're saying about not analysing etc is very true...but it's kind of a chicken/egg thing, because it only works to do that (I've found) when you're with someone who's potentially right for you. I've found that if you're with someone who's not right for you (but you want him to BE right), it's almost impossible to relax and go with the flow.
I'm very relaxed about the new guy I've gone out with a few times...excited and happy but relaxed. I've found that to be the case a few other times (some of which didn't work out in the long run) and it's a good reminder of how things can and should be. So often we try to put the square peg in the round hole and that's what causes the stress and overanalysing, IMO.
Sheri
HI Luv,
Cool that! It is heartening to read that things can go along well and normally and I am Very glad they have for y'all!!!
I think that "frenzy 101" is a really Good indicator for me, that things are Not proceeding as they should. In good relationships, you not only feel at peace, but usually, the other person almost Anticipates your needs and calls often, says nice things, etc. Good becomes better, turns into Best!
Happy Easter!
Keep us posted.
Truly,
Cupcake
Hi All,
It was great to see you all remembered me! LOL
NGOL...Thanks for the greeting. How is it going for you?
SP (Love the puppy!) and Sunshine...Congratulations on your relationships! So happy to see it's working.
Hi Sheri...I'm glad you've met someone with some "potential"! LOL Good luck!
LG and John (How's Yukon?)...Thanks guys! I'm so happy to see you two are still posting!
CGUN...I've noticed form your posts that you have something good going for you too. Congrats!
Cupcake...Thanks. It's good to see you!
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